Episode 199
Stand up for yourself: Embracing Humour as a speaker
Embracing Humour and Preparing for Standup: The Journey to Episode 200
Summary
Host John Ball is excited about the upcoming 200th episode, which will feature an interview with Chris Marr. He also gives an update about his recent solo venture, which was inspired by a previous episode with Judy Carter.
John discusses the importance of humour in presentations and his leap into stand-up comedy, including a planned open mic night performance.
The episode touches on techniques for incorporating humor, personal storytelling, and the role of comedy in building trust and engagement with audiences. John also reflects on the podcast's evolution and invites listener participation.
If you'd like to ask John a question, email john@presentinfluence.com or visit the website/LinkedIn profile at the bottom of the show notes.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Schedule Update
00:20 Inspiration from Judy Carter
01:51 Preparing for Standup Comedy
04:58 Comedy Techniques and Observations
07:44 The Power of Humor in Presentations
12:42 Podcast Journey and Future Plans
16:32 Conclusion and Upcoming Episode
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Transcript
Welcome to the show, and today I want to do something a little
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:different bringing you the solo
show on Wednesday instead of Friday.
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:I will get that schedule fixed
back to normal pretty soon.
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:But one of the reasons for doing that
is the next episode is gonna be episode
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:200, and that is going to be an interview
with an incredible guest called Chris Ma.
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:I'm bringing you that on Friday.
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:But I wanted today to follow on
from my episode with Judy Carter and
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:give you some news about something
that episode inspired me to do.
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:So I hope you'll stay with me to hear a
little bit more about adding humor into
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:your presentations and maybe even having
a go at standup comedy while perhaps
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:why we should all do that as speakers.
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:So welcome to present influence the show
for speakers, coaches and consultants who
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:want to influence, impact, and inspire.
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:My name's John Ball, your guide on this
journey to mastery level communication.
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:As we get things started off on the show
today, I hope you have checked out the
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:episode with Judy Carter from last time.
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:Judy shared some real gems, and
Judy is someone who I'd wanted to
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:interview for a very long time.
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:She's one of the only people,
who is an excellent comedy coach
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:who can help you to be funnier.
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:But one thing that Judy to say is.
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:She can't make unfunny people funny.
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:However, there is maybe a little
get around that sometimes even just
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:by acknowledging that you are humor
impaired, you can get that laugh if you
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:struggle to be funny in other things.
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:So you can still have a little, there's
always ways to add a little humor, even if
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:you're not a natural comedian or humorist
or joker within your presentations,
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:it's still good to have that.
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:Do Judy's thing of changing your
response from a negative to a positive.
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:Hey, I'm humor impaired.
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:It turns things around and you can get
those although I would say that response
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:does require a little bit of work or
practice that may not feel for you.
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:Even deadpan.
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:I think that would work.
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:Now, one of the things that Judy
did say is that she herself was
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:doing a standup comedy night.
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:In fact, she was paying to be on an
open mic so she could scare herself, so
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:she could have the experience of being
up, telling some jokes and doing some
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:material in front of a live audience.
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:And stage time is always such an important
element of keeping ourselves going.
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:Now I have for a little while been aware
of that a new open mic Comedy Night in
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:English in the city of Valencia where
I live and have been a little tentative
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:about putting myself forward for it.
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:One element has been the time to
actually do the prep work for this,
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:and that's still a concern for me.
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:However, I do have.
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:Overall book's worth of comedy
material that I've been writing
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:over several years based on exer.
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:A lot of it's based on exercises that
I've done with Judy Carter through the
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:new Comedy Bible and the workbook that
she has alongside that has been incredibly
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:helpful for me, and having been going
over some of that material and knowing
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:that I now need to come up with a five
minute set for April the third then.
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:I'm happy to say that some of that
stuff is still making me laugh.
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:I have no idea how that's gonna go,
I was saying to a friend today that
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:I'm happy to get up on stage and talk,
and I can be funny when I do that.
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:And a good friend of mine was
saying to me, she's always found
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:my talks and presentations to
be entertaining and humorous.
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:So that's certainly a good start.
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:But the whole concept of getting
on a stage with the sole intention
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:of making people laugh is scary.
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:And I decided to put myself forward
for this open mic night is only
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:gonna be five minutes and if I can,
I'm gonna record it so that I can
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:share it with you on the podcast.
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:Now, some of the things that I think
are particularly important, and one
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:thing I think is really good to do is
to set the tone straight away, which
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:is something I'm gonna do, set the tone
straight away of who I am what I'm about.
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:So one of the first things I'm
gonna say is, Hey, I'm gonna
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:address the elephant in the room.
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:And then I'll say something like,
Hey, I'm not talking about myself.
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:I'm not an elephant.
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:Oh, okay.
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:Maybe I'm have a few extra pounds, but
that can actually lead me into some
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:material that I already have written.
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:So it starts gonna be something, I
think, something along those lines
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:clearly needs a little bit of practice.
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:And of course I'm delivering it
deadpan here, so it's not gonna
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:be how it would be on a stage.
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:But I'm happy to say things like thinking
about different aspects of your life
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:as stories particularly were very Well.
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:Most comedy these days is stories,
people telling stories that are humorous
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:or have humorous elements in them.
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:And one thing I got from the workshop
that I did with Judy Carter several
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:months ago was we worked on a story
that I'm gonna bring into my five
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:minute set that's just based on
something as simple as going swimming.
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:So this is where the, me talking
about being a bit overweight
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:is gonna lead me into that.
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:I'm now going swimming every
day as part of my mission, to
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:combat my size, and to slim down.
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:And that leads me into then the, some
of the funny, hopefully funny story
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:that we, that I worked on with Judy,
which is gonna require a little bit
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:more, a little bit more work as well.
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:Some of the things that I do think work
very well though within comedy sets
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:are rants to talk about things that
you really hate and why you hate them.
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:I think also things that you don't really
understand, or maybe you do understand
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:them, but you don't understand why people
respond in certain ways or why they do.
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:Why do people do some of the
crazy things that they do?
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:Done in the right way.
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:That can work.
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:Observational humor can be really good.
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:I would have to say one of the best
comedians I've ever seen observational
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:humor, although she's in the doghouse
these days, is Ellen DeGeneres is
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:she had her standup certainly from
way back was excellent observational
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:comedy, Victoria Wood, and from the uk.
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:Another great example probably someone
that anyone outside of the UK may not
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:really know or have come across or
any of our, any younger UK listeners.
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:May not necessarily be aware of her
either, but observations are done the
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:right way and they're like, what the hell?
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:You want to look at what those
strange responses are that people
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:have and your reactions to that
as well done in the right way.
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:That can be funny.
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:So I'm gonna let you know how that goes.
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:But it's important, I think , and
something I'm gonna do is try out my
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:material before I get onto that stage.
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:So it's not going to be just me delivering
that for the first time to anyone else.
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:I wanna see if that material
can make someone laugh before
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:I do an open mic night.
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:I'm not a professional comedian
although, something I would love to
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:do is even though that's terrifying,
it's something I would love to do.
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:And I would love to be good at it.
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:So I'm hoping I can make people
laugh at least a little bit
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:in five minutes on stage.
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:And I want to share that as terrifying
as it is with you, and encourage
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:you as well to think about the
ways in which you could be funny.
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:If you are wanting to punch up your
presentations a little bit and being funny
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:could be a good way for you to do that,
and I think it is a great way to do that.
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:Do grab yourself a copy of Judy Carter's
new Comedy Bible, because I think it is
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:the only book that I've come across that
effectively teaches you how to construct
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:standup comedy routines and put yourself
into the mindset of creating the material.
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:So Judy does a great job of leading you
into comic ways of thinking, flexing your
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:comedy muscles in your brain so that you
start thinking in those sorts of ways.
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:We want things like those power of
three effects, where we'll have a
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:one and a two, and then a surprise.
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:So you get one thing normal,
second thing normal, and the third
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:thing completely off the wall.
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:A bit of a, what the heck?
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:Those are the kinds of things
that do make people laugh.
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:Interestingly enough, before I'd
even made this decision, I have
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:also been listening to a book on
understanding humor and comedy.
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:Which has been really fascinating
and there are certainly some great
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:tips in there as well for comedy
writing and for comedy performing.
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:And I think one of the most important
things is that comedy isn't necessarily
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:always about punching up or punching down,
or it's not always about insulting people.
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:Sometimes comedy is about creating
a sense of danger and then
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:giving the relief of that danger.
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:So we had, oh, where's
it gonna go with this?
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:And then it was like, oh, sigh of relief.
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:We can laugh about that now as well.
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:So comedy can be many different
things, but it doesn't mean that
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:we always have to be political.
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:We don't always have to be an
attack on somebody or we don't
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:have to make other people.
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:Into the punchline of our jokes, but
if we are gonna do that, we should
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:probably try and do it in a warm way.
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:And I think this is something
that I sometimes I watch a lot of
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:standup because it is something that
fascinates me and it is something I
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:would like to be able to be good at.
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:And when I see comedians doing crowd
work, especially comedians, like Jessica
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:Kirson and Mateo, lane another one.
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:Excellent.
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:With crowd work, and there's another
guy whose name I can't remember.
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:He's very good at crowd work.
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:And when I see these, they can throw out
sometimes a harsh word or an insult, but
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:then they'll smile and they'll make it.
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:Okay.
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:And that makes me think about.
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:Back when I used to be a flight
attendant, and I remember years and
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:years ago, a senior crew member saying
to me, Hey, look, you can pretty much
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:say anything you want to say with a
smile on your face to a passenger.
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:Now, short of actually swearing at them
or calling them something very offensive.
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:You can mostly say anything you
want with a smile on your face.
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:And I found over the years, my experience.
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:Proved that pretty much was the case.
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:Not that I was trying to be
intentionally mean or nasty to people.
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:I just sometimes find when you had to give
some feedback on the spot or maybe make
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:a comment in a situation that you could
get away with something a little cheeky if
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:you had a smile on your face, and it does
need to be that warm smile rather than a
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:smug grade or something, someone might
want to slap you or punch you instead.
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:So I think no warm smile on your face, the
one where your eyes are smiling as well.
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:It shows that there's no hostility,
and I think this is one of the
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:reasons why comedy does help to
engender trust in a relationship with
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:an audience, particularly, because
it's disarming to that degree.
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:It shows not a threat.
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:'cause I'm making you
laugh and I come in peace.
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:It's like I might be cheeky,
but I'm not gonna hurt you.
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:I'm not going to upset you.
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:I'm not going to damage you
or your reputation in any way.
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:I might make some jokes, but
it's all gonna be lighthearted.
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:And it's not gonna be deeply personal
'cause we're not looking to upset anyone.
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:That's not the goal of comedy.
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:But when we can do comedy
well, we can potentially have
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:a theater or an auditorium of
people laughing at the same time.
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:Okay.
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:Maybe not.
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:Everyone, a hundred percent is always
gonna be laughing at every joke.
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:But it tends to be the case that when a
lot of people start laughing, other people
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:start to join in as well because laughter
is like a group activity that we'll do and
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:it does start to much like storytelling,
comedy does start to synchronize our
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:brainwaves when we're laughing together.
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:It helps to make groups more cohesive.
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:We feel like we can almost trust
people if we are laughing about the
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:same things as they are and we're
finding the same things funny.
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:We find our tribe, as Judy was
saying, we find the people who will
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:throw the ball back to us and not get
upset or think, Hey, you are weird.
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:I would love to hear from you, as to
whether you are adding some humor into
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:your presentations or whether you are
gonna try and be a little funnier, whether
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:you are actually gonna grab yourself
a copy of the Comedy Bible, and maybe
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:even the workbook, and have a go at
being funny, creating, at least writing
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:some humorous material for yourself.
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:And if you do.
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:Please feel free to share it.
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:You can by all means, you can join Judy's
Comedy Bible, Facebook group and share
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:stuff there and connect with other people,
many of whom are actually trying to
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:become full-time professional comedians.
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:But you could also, if you're brave,
share it here and maybe if you
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:are open to it, we could actually
have a show where we take a look
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:at some of the things that you do.
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:I would love to add any, anything I
get back from you into the episode
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:that I'm gonna do where I'm gonna
try and bring you a recording
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:of my attempt at standup humor.
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:I'll share this as well before
I start to wrap up for today,
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:but I'm also gonna potentially
be in a story slam this Sunday.
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:I definitely feel it is time to do
something about my stage time, because
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:it's been a long time since I've been
to a Toast Master group and most of
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:my presentation work recently has been
virtual, so I really want to do some in
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:person speaking and presenting, get up
on those stages and try out my skills.
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:So not only do I have to prepare a
five minute story for this Sunday,
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:but also keep working on my five
minute set, which is exactly what I'm
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:going to work on once I've finished
recording this particular episode.
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:So if you're not interested in hearing me
talk about any of my podcast experience
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:to come up to 200 episodes, this might
be a good place to leave the episode.
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:But for those of you who are interested
in that, I'd love to share a little
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:of some of my insights with you.
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:This show has been through
numerous iterations over the years.
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:There's several name changes.
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:It started off being called the
Loqui Podcast or Lokey Loca Speaking.
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:Nobody got that.
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:They thought it was like lokey, the
God of mischief or something like that.
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:There was a crazy name.
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:I changed it to, I think,
speaking of influence.
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:Then it just became speaking influence.
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:I think, I can't even remember what I was
calling it last year or a few years ago
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:before I changed it to present influence,
which was also my business name.
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:It just made so much sense when it's
like, all right, this is actually
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:what the show's about, and I have the
business operating name or present
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:influence because it's about presenting
and it's about influence, but it's
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:also about being present, and I wanted
the show to reflect that as well.
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:So it is been a lot more cohesive.
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:We did have a bit of a tone where I was
trying to take the show to being more
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:about podcasts and podcast guesting.
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:However, it just seemed, it felt
like it limited the scope of what I
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:wanted to talk about way too much.
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:And really, I wanted the show to be about.
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:Influence, about persuasion, about
presentation skills, the kinda stuff
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:that's gonna help us all, myself
included, to become better communicators.
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:So that's one reason why I want
to keep bringing experts on who
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:can talk about interesting aspects
that help us to grow and develop.
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:In our communication and influence
and persuasion skills within ethical
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:frameworks and to perhaps sometimes
understand some of these stuff that
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:maybe isn't so ethical so that we can
at least have awareness of that, but
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:hopefully not practice that for ourselves.
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:The show did have a bit of a hiatus last
year whilst I was working with the Speaker
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:lab organization and things got very
busy there and I just really couldn't
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:keep up with the workload paying someone
else to edit and take care of the show,
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:to have that done at the quality that
I wanted was a bit beyond my budget.
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:It was really a case of I still needed to
find the time to do that rather than to
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:get some cheapy editing from fiverr.com
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:or something like that.
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:It felt better to maybe pause
the show and I wasn't really
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:sure it was gonna come back.
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:I would say, honestly, just being
honest with you, I probably lost a
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:bit of passion for it for a while.
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:And it was really hard to get that back.
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:But I knew I wanted to and I worked on it
and I talked about it with various people
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:and then I started putting the show back
together and looking at some new guest
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:interviews and decided, Hey, yeah, this
is something that I really want to do.
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:I'm happy to report that the show
listener numbers are gradually increasing.
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:It's all going in the right direction.
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:People do seem to be liking the mixture
of guest interviews and solo shows as
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:well, so I'm gonna keep those coming and
take your pick as to which you prefer.
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:If there are any other formats that you
would like to see or any other ideas you
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:have for the show, or maybe you even think
you'd like to be, come and be a guest or
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:even a guest host then please let me know.
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:I'd love, I would love to hear from you.
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:Certainly the show is going to continue
and now that I'm particularly growing my
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:speaking business and my coaching elements
with that as well it really is all
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:gonna be very tied into what we do here.
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:So you're gonna get a lot of
elements that I coach and work with
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:people on within these episodes.
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:But of course, if you wanna wait
to get all that piecemeal over
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:episodes over several years, then
you know, very welcome to do that.
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:But if you do want to accelerate
things and maybe then develop a keynote
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:for us to work on your humor, get
presentation feedback and guidance,
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:that's gonna take you to a new level,
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:we could have a chat sooner than that.
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:You can.
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:Just reach out to me,
John@presentinfluence.com
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:or connect with me on LinkedIn.
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:You'll find my LinkedIn profile link
within the show notes to the episode.
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:But that's pretty much
it for me for this week.
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:And so the next episode is
gonna be my 200th episode.
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:I'm gonna be bringing you that originally
was gonna be the episode with Judy but
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:it's now gonna be a wonderful interview
that I did with a guy called Chris Marr,
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:who is the author of the Authoritative
Coach, which I do have trouble saying.
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:Great book.
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:And if you want to check out really what
I would call the first part of this where
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:we talked about the coaching elements,
if you are a coach and you are interested
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:in being a more authoritative coach.
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:Go and listen to the coaching
clinic episode with Chris, where
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:myself and Angie had a chat.
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:We talked much more about the
coaching elements there on this
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:episode, which is gonna be the follow
up to that, which I did solo with
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:Chris for this particular podcast.
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:We talk much more about the authority
elements of that and how that's gonna
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:help you as a speaker, consultant coach.
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:So whilst there may be a little
crossover between those, it is
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:a very different conversation.
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:Very worthwhile as well.
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:So I hope you will join us for that
episode 200 coming out this Friday.
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:You'll also get the newsletter on Friday.
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:I will return to the Wednesday
format, but if you're not currently
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:getting the newsletter at the
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:I will be trying to make it available.
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:On Kit as well.
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:inbox without following another
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:available for you as well pretty soon.
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:But right now it's just on LinkedIn.
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:Certainly looking to get
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:I'm aiming to hit 1000 followers
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:If you do check that out and sign up for
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:as well so that we can hit that 1000
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:For now, wherever you're going,
wherever you're doing, have an
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:amazing rest of your day and I'll
see you next time for episode 200.