Episode 201

Scary Things and Stage Time: A Speaker's Guide to Growth

Confronting Professional Fears to Enhance Communication Skills

Summary

In this episode of 'Present Influence,' host John Ball explores the concept of tackling fears to grow professionally as speakers and communicators. Reflecting on a conversation with Judy Carter, John discusses the importance of doing the things that scare us, such as participating in open mic nights and storytelling events, to improve our craft.

John shares his personal journey of preparing for his first stand-up comedy performance, emphasising the value of consistent practice and deliberately pushing oneself beyond comfort zones. He also highlights the significance of entertainment in professional speaking and offers practical advice for those struggling with stage fright.

The episode wraps up with an invitation to future exciting interviews and resources available for advancing communication skills.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Scary Things

00:42 Facing Fears: The Open Mic Challenge

02:07 The Importance of Stage Time

03:10 Leveraging Storytelling and Comedy

04:57 Professional Speaking Tips

08:02 Consistency and Personal Growth

09:08 Upcoming Events and Guest Highlights

11:47 Conclusion and Contact Information

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Transcript
John:

Have you ever come across that famous quote to do something

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every day that scares you?

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Usually attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt?

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Are we doing the scary things

for us in business as professional

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speakers, communicators, coaches,

whatever we may be doing,

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are we facing up to the

elements of what we need to do

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professionally that scare us?

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That's what I wanna talk about in this

shorter episode of Present influence the

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show for professional communicators who

want to inspire, impact and influence.

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My name's John Ball.

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I am your guide on this journey to

mastery level communication skills.

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I've been thinking about.

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Scary things a lot.

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Not anything to do with Halloween or

ghosts but the things that scare us in

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life and business, this followed from

a conversation I had with Judy Carter,

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a few episodes back, episode 1 9 8,

if you want to go and check that out.

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Highly recommend it.

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And Judy was talking about how even now

with all of her experience as a speaker,

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with all of her experience in standup

comedy, she still goes and does open

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mic nights to scare herself a little,

to feel alive and to get that rush

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of energy and ideas and inspiration.

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And I thought about how long I've been

putting off doing things like an open mic

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night because it is fricking scary and it.

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And it is something I thought

maybe someday I'll do it, or I'll

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do a course first and then it will

lead up to something like that.

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But I've known for several months that

there is a new open mic Comedy Night

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here in the city where I live in English.

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'cause I don't think I'm quite

ready to do it in Spanish just yet.

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I decided to see if I could

put myself in the running to

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get into that open mic night.

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Now, I must admit, when I reached

out to the organizer, I was hoping

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that the next event would be full

and I'd have a month or so to plan in

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advance before the next one happens.

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That's not the case.

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This week I'm gonna be doing my first

open mic comedy, and I'm not scared.

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I'm quite excited about it,

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I have been thinking a lot about stage

time and how important it is to get

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regular stage time because I lost a

lot of my practice stage time when

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my local Toastmasters group moved

their meetings to a night when I run a

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group call and I'm not able to attend.

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That screwed me over a for having regular

practice sessions with that organization.

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But I still want to keep

my hand in when I'm not.

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Being paid to present.

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So, I put myself in for a recent

storytelling event that I did

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on Sunday that was a lot of fun.

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I spent time with a friend of mine.

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We both participated, we

both presented stories.

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There probably about five or

six storytellers altogether, and

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it was a lot of fun and I felt

very proud of what I'd done.

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I saw lots of room for improvement,

which is really the whole point of

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doing this because it's only when we

get ourselves in front of live audiences

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doing the scary thing that we're

going to be able to start to improve.

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Otherwise, we're just playing

the game in our head and we are

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not really out there delivering.

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So I think it is a great idea to get

yourself on a stage as often as you

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can, doing the elements that perhaps

you are a little bit more scared of,

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so if you do have some fear around

professional storytelling, get

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yourself along to a storytelling event.

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Or maybe you have some fear around getting

onto stages generally, and you've been

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in the safety of virtual presentations

where it's felt a lot easier to do that.

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And doing in-person presentations might

be feeling a little bit scary for you.

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That's why I think things like

Toastmasters, organizations and

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public speaking clubs can be very

useful for you to go and practice.

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Where there's sometimes an issue

for professional speakers in those

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organizations is that unless you are

in a club that has a lot of other

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professional or advanced speakers, you

may not receive the kind of feedback

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that you really need to develop and grow.

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Because the common feedback in

those groups is more about your

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vocal variety, which is important.

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How many ums and ahs you've done in

a presentation, whether you are on

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time or not, whether it's engaging, so

you're not really going to get advanced

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level feedback on things like your

blocking on the stage or your energy

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things that are probably gonna be

useful for you to be focusing on.

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Now.

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I think there are perhaps ways around

that where you can ask people to be

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specific and tell them up front, frame it.

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This is the kind of feedback

that I'm looking for.

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But in general, I think you're far

better off getting onto stages where

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you are going to get feedback for live

performances where there's skin in

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the game and stakes at play for you.

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So even if the stakes are just an

audience clap or whether they laugh

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in the right places that's fine

and definitely better to be more

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relaxed and comfortable doing those.

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I'm thinking for myself that the elements

of storytelling and the standup comedy

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stuff, . These are all things that I

can bring into more of my professional

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speaking work that are gonna make me

more comfortable, more engaging, more

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entertaining and a better performer

on the stage, we shouldn't lose sight.

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That in professional speaking,

the entertainment factor

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is incredibly important.

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In fact, I just recorded a podcast

episode with a professional entertainer

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who's starting to move into doing

some paid speaking work and we talked

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about a lot of the similarities and

differences there as well, but I

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think it is easier for someone to move

into professional speaking from those

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entertainment areas where you are more

comfortable with stages with audiences,

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and you know how to get the energy

going in a room, you know how to

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interact with the audience as well.

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So it is a good transition to be able

to make, even with Judy Carter, when she

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was on the show not that long ago, one

of the things she talked about was it

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was a great transition for her to move

from comedy clubs to corporate gigs.

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The only real thing she had to change was

to make sure it was clean, that you had to

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deliver clean material, and I think that's

great advice for corporate speakers.

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Always better to work clean when you can.

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Sometimes maybe a curses word is gonna

slip out somewhere and that's cool.

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I don't think anyone's

gonna have too much issue.

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And depending on the environment you

may need to apologize for it as well.

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I don't think we should ever just go

to the point of assuming that this

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is who I am, this is how I talk,

and that's just what you're gonna

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have to deal with, if it's gonna be

cutting you off from the possibility

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of doing certain kinds of gigs.

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More than anything, you want to be

booked and you want to be respected,

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and you want to be seen as an authority.

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So letting things that could actually

affect your public image, get a little bit

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out of hand just for the sake of, I want

to do it this way, could work against you.

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So I think it's great

advice to work clean.

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I like one of the things Judy says

in her book, the New Comedy Bible,

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about write your material with

all the foul language you want and

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then edit it out to perform it.

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That can be a great way to make sure

you still have your voice there.

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But when you actually deliver

this and you're being paid to

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deliver it, you clean things up

for the audiences that you go to.

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I wasn't planning for this to turn into

a lecture on swearing, talking about

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doing the scary things, I really just

wanna talk about doing those scary things

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because it's easy to start

finding reasons not to do them.

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And there's all sorts of things,

whether you are a professional speaker

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a coach, a consultant, if you have

your own business, there's all sorts

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of things you may not be wanting to do.

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Even if you are working for another

organization, there may be elements

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of your job that are available

to you that seem a bit scary.

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This is really about pushing yourself

to challenge yourself in positive ways.

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I don't suggest doing scary things just

for the sake of doing scary things.

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But I do feel that if you are challenging

yourself in the right ways, where we

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start to come up against ourselves

and it feels scary, there should also

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be a bit of excitement there as well,

because you're pushing yourself to do the

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things that you really want to be doing.

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I think another part of this is

building up consistency I will

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say, this is my word for 2025.

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I'm very focused on developing consistency

because I think when you are consistent

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in certain kinds of actions, they will

inevitably lead you to the results.

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Where a lot of people tend to go wrong

is doing a lot of big action out front

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the magic happens when you push yourself

to do the scary things to the point

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where you start to get good at them and

you stay consistent with them as well.

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I was a bit scared sometimes of going

to the gym or going to the swimming

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pool because, I'm not the slimmest

person and sometimes when you're

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a bit overweight, you have fear of

being judged by people, especially

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when you're in a pair of swim shorts.

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So it is not my favorite thing to be

walking around in swim shorts and sandals.

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Where I can be seen, but if I want

to get the kind of results that I'm

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aiming to get, I have to show up.

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I have to show up and swim every day.

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I have to maybe mix in some other things

as well, focus on my diet a bit more

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and get consistent with those because

one day without eating a chocolate

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bar is not gonna get you a six pack.

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I am gonna bring you some of the footage

of the story slam that I was involved in.

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Gonna be doing another one

towards the end of this month.

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I'm doing some coaching and work

shopping with the organization

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that's putting those on.

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So I'm excited.

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There's stuff to learn and new

people to network and connect with.

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And this is another thing that I

found with putting yourself out

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there more for these kinds of things

of you meet new people, you find.

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New opportunities, even just now.

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I was interviewing a podcast guest just

before coming to record this and he

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was recommending a podcast guest to me.

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And as he starts telling me about

this person, I think, oh, I know

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exactly who you're talking about.

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And I would love to have them on the show.

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Someone who I'm in their network.

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So we'll see if we can make that happen.

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'cause it is someone I've got on my

guest wishlist, so I'm potentially

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very excited that I'm gonna get a

personal introduction and hopefully

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bring them onto the show for you.

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But I will be bringing you a guest this

Friday and next week hopefully I'll be

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able to bring you some footage of my story

slam and of my standup comedy experience,

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even if I bomb, even if I completely bomb,

I'm gonna present the whole thing to you

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so you can see it and you can enjoy me

bombing, or you can enjoy me maybe getting

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a few laughs or maybe I actually end

up delivering a funny five minute set.

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Either way, I'm looking forward to

the experience because I'm gonna grow

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and develop from it, and I'm not gonna

have that if I don't put myself out

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there and just do the scary thing.

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My guest on Friday is

going to be Greg Bennick.

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Greg is an amazing speaker and

he has years of experience.

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He's been training TEDx speakers.

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He started on the stage

himself when he was very young.

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He has a big theater and performance

background, which is just elements that

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I think are so important to discuss

on this show because I do feel like

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the entertainment edutainment even

we often call it, that these elements

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are critical to being an excellent

and engaging speaker and to helping

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you get the kinds of figures you hope

to get as a professional speaker.

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So that's gonna be Friday's episode.

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Please make sure you're

subscribed to the show for that.

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If you haven't already checked out

my 200th episode with Chris Marr,

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where we talked about how to be

more authoritative on the stage.

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That was a great episode and

really enjoyed Chris as a guest and

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his book Become an Authoritative

Coach is really good.

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I've thoroughly enjoyed it.

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Definitely all good stuff.

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There's no filler content

in there, no fluff.

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It's all good, meaty content in there,

so I highly recommend that as well.

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And make sure you've listened

to the episode with Judy

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Carter from a few weeks ago.

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Just so many amazing guests at

the moment, and I'm very excited

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for the guests I have lined up.

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I'm not gonna give too

much away right now.

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But I'm gonna call this

an episode for right now.

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Thank you for joining me.

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If you're not already subscribed

to the show, please do that.

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then please feel free to email

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me, john@presentinfluence.com

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or reach out on LinkedIn.

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It's a great place to connect with me.

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You can also go to present influence.com,

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and there's a contact form on the

website if you prefer to do that.

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if you haven't already taken my

speaker Strengths Archetype assessment,

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that is free and available to you

at the Present Influence website.

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So go take the quiz and find out your

speaker strengths lots of good information

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in there, and some recommendations for

places that you might want to focus on

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for shoring up your speaking skills.

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That's it for today.

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Wherever you're going, whatever you're

doing, have an amazing rest of your day.

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We'll see you again very soon.

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John Ball

John Ball is a keynote coach and professional speaker on a mission to help upcoming leaders master their communication, create impact and stand out as experts in their field.
John left the high life of his flying career to do something more meaningful to him and has since worked with several leading personal and professional development organisations as a lead coach and trainer.
The heart of everything John does involves helping people shift to personal responsibility and conscious awareness of how they show up and perform in every situation, whilst equipping them with the tools to be exceptional.
John also co-hosts The Coaching Clinic Podcast with his great friend and colleague Angie Besignano.
He lives in the beautiful city of Valencia, Spain with his husband and often visits the UK and US for speaking and training engagements. When he's not speaking or podcasting, he's likely to be out swimming, kayaking or enjoying time with friends.

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