Episode 201
Scary Things and Stage Time: A Speaker's Guide to Growth
Confronting Professional Fears to Enhance Communication Skills
Summary
In this episode of 'Present Influence,' host John Ball explores the concept of tackling fears to grow professionally as speakers and communicators. Reflecting on a conversation with Judy Carter, John discusses the importance of doing the things that scare us, such as participating in open mic nights and storytelling events, to improve our craft.
John shares his personal journey of preparing for his first stand-up comedy performance, emphasising the value of consistent practice and deliberately pushing oneself beyond comfort zones. He also highlights the significance of entertainment in professional speaking and offers practical advice for those struggling with stage fright.
The episode wraps up with an invitation to future exciting interviews and resources available for advancing communication skills.
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Scary Things
00:42 Facing Fears: The Open Mic Challenge
02:07 The Importance of Stage Time
03:10 Leveraging Storytelling and Comedy
04:57 Professional Speaking Tips
08:02 Consistency and Personal Growth
09:08 Upcoming Events and Guest Highlights
11:47 Conclusion and Contact Information
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Transcript
Have you ever come across that famous quote to do something
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:every day that scares you?
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:Usually attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt?
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:Are we doing the scary things
for us in business as professional
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:speakers, communicators, coaches,
whatever we may be doing,
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:are we facing up to the
elements of what we need to do
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:professionally that scare us?
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:That's what I wanna talk about in this
shorter episode of Present influence the
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:show for professional communicators who
want to inspire, impact and influence.
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:My name's John Ball.
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:I am your guide on this journey to
mastery level communication skills.
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:I've been thinking about.
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:Scary things a lot.
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:Not anything to do with Halloween or
ghosts but the things that scare us in
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:life and business, this followed from
a conversation I had with Judy Carter,
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:a few episodes back, episode 1 9 8,
if you want to go and check that out.
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:Highly recommend it.
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:And Judy was talking about how even now
with all of her experience as a speaker,
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:with all of her experience in standup
comedy, she still goes and does open
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:mic nights to scare herself a little,
to feel alive and to get that rush
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:of energy and ideas and inspiration.
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:And I thought about how long I've been
putting off doing things like an open mic
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:night because it is fricking scary and it.
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:And it is something I thought
maybe someday I'll do it, or I'll
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:do a course first and then it will
lead up to something like that.
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:But I've known for several months that
there is a new open mic Comedy Night
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:here in the city where I live in English.
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:'cause I don't think I'm quite
ready to do it in Spanish just yet.
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:I decided to see if I could
put myself in the running to
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:get into that open mic night.
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:Now, I must admit, when I reached
out to the organizer, I was hoping
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:that the next event would be full
and I'd have a month or so to plan in
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:advance before the next one happens.
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:That's not the case.
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:This week I'm gonna be doing my first
open mic comedy, and I'm not scared.
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:I'm quite excited about it,
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:I have been thinking a lot about stage
time and how important it is to get
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:regular stage time because I lost a
lot of my practice stage time when
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:my local Toastmasters group moved
their meetings to a night when I run a
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:group call and I'm not able to attend.
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:That screwed me over a for having regular
practice sessions with that organization.
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:But I still want to keep
my hand in when I'm not.
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:Being paid to present.
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:So, I put myself in for a recent
storytelling event that I did
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:on Sunday that was a lot of fun.
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:I spent time with a friend of mine.
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:We both participated, we
both presented stories.
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:There probably about five or
six storytellers altogether, and
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:it was a lot of fun and I felt
very proud of what I'd done.
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:I saw lots of room for improvement,
which is really the whole point of
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:doing this because it's only when we
get ourselves in front of live audiences
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:doing the scary thing that we're
going to be able to start to improve.
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:Otherwise, we're just playing
the game in our head and we are
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:not really out there delivering.
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:So I think it is a great idea to get
yourself on a stage as often as you
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:can, doing the elements that perhaps
you are a little bit more scared of,
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:so if you do have some fear around
professional storytelling, get
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:yourself along to a storytelling event.
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:Or maybe you have some fear around getting
onto stages generally, and you've been
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:in the safety of virtual presentations
where it's felt a lot easier to do that.
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:And doing in-person presentations might
be feeling a little bit scary for you.
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:That's why I think things like
Toastmasters, organizations and
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:public speaking clubs can be very
useful for you to go and practice.
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:Where there's sometimes an issue
for professional speakers in those
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:organizations is that unless you are
in a club that has a lot of other
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:professional or advanced speakers, you
may not receive the kind of feedback
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:that you really need to develop and grow.
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:Because the common feedback in
those groups is more about your
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:vocal variety, which is important.
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:How many ums and ahs you've done in
a presentation, whether you are on
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:time or not, whether it's engaging, so
you're not really going to get advanced
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:level feedback on things like your
blocking on the stage or your energy
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:things that are probably gonna be
useful for you to be focusing on.
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:Now.
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:I think there are perhaps ways around
that where you can ask people to be
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:specific and tell them up front, frame it.
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:This is the kind of feedback
that I'm looking for.
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:But in general, I think you're far
better off getting onto stages where
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:you are going to get feedback for live
performances where there's skin in
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:the game and stakes at play for you.
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:So even if the stakes are just an
audience clap or whether they laugh
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:in the right places that's fine
and definitely better to be more
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:relaxed and comfortable doing those.
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:I'm thinking for myself that the elements
of storytelling and the standup comedy
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:stuff, . These are all things that I
can bring into more of my professional
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:speaking work that are gonna make me
more comfortable, more engaging, more
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:entertaining and a better performer
on the stage, we shouldn't lose sight.
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:That in professional speaking,
the entertainment factor
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:is incredibly important.
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:In fact, I just recorded a podcast
episode with a professional entertainer
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:who's starting to move into doing
some paid speaking work and we talked
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:about a lot of the similarities and
differences there as well, but I
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:think it is easier for someone to move
into professional speaking from those
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:entertainment areas where you are more
comfortable with stages with audiences,
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:and you know how to get the energy
going in a room, you know how to
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:interact with the audience as well.
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:So it is a good transition to be able
to make, even with Judy Carter, when she
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:was on the show not that long ago, one
of the things she talked about was it
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:was a great transition for her to move
from comedy clubs to corporate gigs.
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:The only real thing she had to change was
to make sure it was clean, that you had to
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:deliver clean material, and I think that's
great advice for corporate speakers.
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:Always better to work clean when you can.
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:Sometimes maybe a curses word is gonna
slip out somewhere and that's cool.
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:I don't think anyone's
gonna have too much issue.
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:And depending on the environment you
may need to apologize for it as well.
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:I don't think we should ever just go
to the point of assuming that this
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:is who I am, this is how I talk,
and that's just what you're gonna
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:have to deal with, if it's gonna be
cutting you off from the possibility
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:of doing certain kinds of gigs.
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:More than anything, you want to be
booked and you want to be respected,
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:and you want to be seen as an authority.
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:So letting things that could actually
affect your public image, get a little bit
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:out of hand just for the sake of, I want
to do it this way, could work against you.
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:So I think it's great
advice to work clean.
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:I like one of the things Judy says
in her book, the New Comedy Bible,
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:about write your material with
all the foul language you want and
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:then edit it out to perform it.
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:That can be a great way to make sure
you still have your voice there.
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:But when you actually deliver
this and you're being paid to
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:deliver it, you clean things up
for the audiences that you go to.
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:I wasn't planning for this to turn into
a lecture on swearing, talking about
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:doing the scary things, I really just
wanna talk about doing those scary things
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:because it's easy to start
finding reasons not to do them.
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:And there's all sorts of things,
whether you are a professional speaker
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:a coach, a consultant, if you have
your own business, there's all sorts
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:of things you may not be wanting to do.
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:Even if you are working for another
organization, there may be elements
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:of your job that are available
to you that seem a bit scary.
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:This is really about pushing yourself
to challenge yourself in positive ways.
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:I don't suggest doing scary things just
for the sake of doing scary things.
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:But I do feel that if you are challenging
yourself in the right ways, where we
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:start to come up against ourselves
and it feels scary, there should also
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:be a bit of excitement there as well,
because you're pushing yourself to do the
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:things that you really want to be doing.
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:I think another part of this is
building up consistency I will
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:say, this is my word for 2025.
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:I'm very focused on developing consistency
because I think when you are consistent
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:in certain kinds of actions, they will
inevitably lead you to the results.
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:Where a lot of people tend to go wrong
is doing a lot of big action out front
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:the magic happens when you push yourself
to do the scary things to the point
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:where you start to get good at them and
you stay consistent with them as well.
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:I was a bit scared sometimes of going
to the gym or going to the swimming
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:pool because, I'm not the slimmest
person and sometimes when you're
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:a bit overweight, you have fear of
being judged by people, especially
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:when you're in a pair of swim shorts.
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:So it is not my favorite thing to be
walking around in swim shorts and sandals.
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:Where I can be seen, but if I want
to get the kind of results that I'm
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:aiming to get, I have to show up.
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:I have to show up and swim every day.
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:I have to maybe mix in some other things
as well, focus on my diet a bit more
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:and get consistent with those because
one day without eating a chocolate
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:bar is not gonna get you a six pack.
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:I am gonna bring you some of the footage
of the story slam that I was involved in.
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:Gonna be doing another one
towards the end of this month.
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:I'm doing some coaching and work
shopping with the organization
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:that's putting those on.
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:So I'm excited.
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:There's stuff to learn and new
people to network and connect with.
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:And this is another thing that I
found with putting yourself out
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:there more for these kinds of things
of you meet new people, you find.
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:New opportunities, even just now.
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:I was interviewing a podcast guest just
before coming to record this and he
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:was recommending a podcast guest to me.
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:And as he starts telling me about
this person, I think, oh, I know
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:exactly who you're talking about.
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:And I would love to have them on the show.
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:Someone who I'm in their network.
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:So we'll see if we can make that happen.
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:'cause it is someone I've got on my
guest wishlist, so I'm potentially
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:very excited that I'm gonna get a
personal introduction and hopefully
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:bring them onto the show for you.
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:But I will be bringing you a guest this
Friday and next week hopefully I'll be
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:able to bring you some footage of my story
slam and of my standup comedy experience,
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:even if I bomb, even if I completely bomb,
I'm gonna present the whole thing to you
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:so you can see it and you can enjoy me
bombing, or you can enjoy me maybe getting
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:a few laughs or maybe I actually end
up delivering a funny five minute set.
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:Either way, I'm looking forward to
the experience because I'm gonna grow
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:and develop from it, and I'm not gonna
have that if I don't put myself out
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:there and just do the scary thing.
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:My guest on Friday is
going to be Greg Bennick.
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:Greg is an amazing speaker and
he has years of experience.
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:He's been training TEDx speakers.
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:He started on the stage
himself when he was very young.
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:He has a big theater and performance
background, which is just elements that
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:I think are so important to discuss
on this show because I do feel like
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:the entertainment edutainment even
we often call it, that these elements
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:are critical to being an excellent
and engaging speaker and to helping
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:you get the kinds of figures you hope
to get as a professional speaker.
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:So that's gonna be Friday's episode.
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:Please make sure you're
subscribed to the show for that.
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:If you haven't already checked out
my 200th episode with Chris Marr,
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:where we talked about how to be
more authoritative on the stage.
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:That was a great episode and
really enjoyed Chris as a guest and
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:his book Become an Authoritative
Coach is really good.
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:I've thoroughly enjoyed it.
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:Definitely all good stuff.
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:There's no filler content
in there, no fluff.
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:It's all good, meaty content in there,
so I highly recommend that as well.
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:And make sure you've listened
to the episode with Judy
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:Carter from a few weeks ago.
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:Just so many amazing guests at
the moment, and I'm very excited
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:for the guests I have lined up.
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:I'm not gonna give too
much away right now.
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:But I'm gonna call this
an episode for right now.
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:Thank you for joining me.
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:me, john@presentinfluence.com
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:or reach out on LinkedIn.
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:It's a great place to connect with me.
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:You can also go to present influence.com,
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:and there's a contact form on the
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:if you haven't already taken my
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:that is free and available to you
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:So go take the quiz and find out your
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:in there, and some recommendations for
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:for shoring up your speaking skills.
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:That's it for today.
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:Wherever you're going, whatever you're
doing, have an amazing rest of your day.
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:We'll see you again very soon.