Episode 224

Commitment & Consistency: High Value Strategies for Speakers

Harnessing Commitment and Consistency: Ethical Influence for Speakers

Summary

This episode delves into the power of commitment and consistency from Dr. Robert Cialdini's Influence Framework, specifically for public speakers. The discussion covers how small 'yeses' can lead to bigger outcomes and why people stick to their decisions. The episode offers practical tips for speakers to ethically apply this principle to build trust, reinforce decisions, and boost conversions without using manipulative tactics. It emphasises the importance of congruence and reliability, both on and off-stage, and warns against unethical uses of commitment tactics. Key strategies include prompting small commitments, encouraging physical actions, and using inclusive language to foster alignment. The episode concludes with a summary of ethical influence, aiming to help speakers become trusted and consistent guides for their audiences.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Commitment and Consistency

00:32 Applying Commitment in Speaking

02:12 Creating Audience Engagement

04:11 Ethical Considerations in Influence

04:57 Consistency in Personal Branding

09:45 Avoiding Manipulative Tactics

16:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Transcript
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Why is it that small yeses from your audience can lead to bigger outcomes?

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Why do people stick to decisions

even when they're no longer ideal?

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Maybe even shown to be wrong.

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It's all down to one of the most

powerful drivers of behavior, which

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is commitment and consistency.

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One more principle from Dr.

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Robert Cialdini's Influence Framework.

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And if you haven't already been

watching this whole series of episodes

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on Cialdini's principles as they

relate to speakers, then you're

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welcome to go back and start from the

beginning or start from this episode

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and go and catch up on the others.

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Later.

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We are diving into how speakers can

ethically apply this principle to

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build trust, reinforce decisions, and

boost conversions without using pushy

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tactics or strong arm manipulation.

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Now, whether you're speaking on keynotes,

webinars, workshops, or whatever it is,

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this is your secret weapon to helping

your audience say yes and mean it.

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So what do commitment and

consistency really mean?

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Well, commitment means taking

a stance verbally in writing

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or through small actions.

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Making some small dedication, commitment,

and consistency then relates to this in

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the human desire to behave in ways that

match our past decisions and our identity.

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We want to be seen and we

want to see ourselves as

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reliable, as congruent people.

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And we also want to see

that in others as well.

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So it's important as speakers that we

are congruent and reliable as well,

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and not doing so can damage trust.

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Chaldini found that people who made

small active and public commitments

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were far more likely to follow through.

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So as a speaker, you can invite,

Tiny moments of commitment

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that create deeper buy-in.

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Now, one of the ways that I've seen

this, and I mentioned it in a earlier

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video, was about people being sent

to the back of the room to buy these

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jars, so jars that they could put

money into, help manage their finances.

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What that sales call was about was

training people into rushing toward the

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back of the room so that they would be

in the habit of doing that later on.

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They'd already made a small commitment

to something that was part of a bigger

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picture, and so it was easier for

most to go on and say yes to further

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learning and development that was gonna

be offered throughout the program.

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So how do you create audience

commitment from the stage?

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Well, this doesn't mean making people

chant or sign contracts in the middle of

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your talk, it's about creating alignment.

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You want to ask small, relevant

questions, like, who here wants

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to lead with more confidence?

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Maybe you raise your hand up

so that you encourage other

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people to raise theirs as well.

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You can even ask, show of hands, who

here wants to lead with more confidence?

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Is anyone gonna answer no to that?

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Probably not, but here's a, here's

a little speaker trick for you.

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So as you say, who here wants

to leave with more confidence?

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You raise your hand.

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Anybody no?

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No.

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Anybody who's not gonna raise

the hand, no matter what I say.

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And you might get a laugh, but

you'll probably get compliance from

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most of the people in the audience.

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It's a small commitment.

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Encourage a physical action.

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Raise your hand if this

has ever happened to you.

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Encouraging the physical action

can make a huge difference as well.

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It creates that public commitment

or public agreement that people will

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then want to stay congruent with.

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You could get people to write

something down, like, what's one thing

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you're committing to try this week?

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Use inclusive language when

you speak, like together, we're

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stepping into whatever it is.

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And when people make small commitments

even privately, they begin seeing

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themselves as someone who takes action.

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Your job is to make the next steps

easy, consistent, and aligned.

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We want commitment in your offer

or your call to action as well.

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So if your talk leads to a program,

a download or an offer, tie it

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back to some earlier moments.

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Now, examples, this could be like if

you said to your audience, if you wrote

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down that you want to communicate more

clearly this workbook will guide you.

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Now, you already said you want

to be a more confident speaker.

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This is the next step.

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Don't pressure, but instead affirm

the identity that they have taken.

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Something like this is for speakers

like you who follow through.

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Do you see what this works by?

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This language is okay.

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It's what we could call manipulation, but

there's always gonna be manipulation and

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it's not necessarily a negative thing.

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And you may have heard me talk about

this before, if you watched other videos.

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We are always manipulating situations,

consciously and unconsciously, and really

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where it becomes negative is where we're

just doing it for our own ends rather

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than for the benefit of other people.

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Here's how we can know if

we're being ethical with this.

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Are we doing it for their

benefit or solely for us?

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Now, it's okay if you get some benefit

from helping them, but if the primary

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goal is helping others to get what

they want, you can be pretty sure

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that you are in more ethical territory

than you just grabbing loads of money

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and getting all the sales through

and getting exactly what you want.

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Here's the thing, consistency

builds trust in you too.

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So it's not just what your

audience commits to, it's also

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what you consistently show.

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This is gonna mean checking in on

things like are you aligned with

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your messaging across your platforms?

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What about your branding?

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Do you look the same in different

places where you show up?

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How do you show up on stage and off stage?

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Some people are vastly

different personalities off

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the stage than they are on it.

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I've seen this many times and it

does create a lack of congruence.

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It does create a sense of mistrust

that you know, that that person

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has maybe just done a performance

because that's not who they are.

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They have acted the part

rather than being that.

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And that might send up some red flags.

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In fact, I feel like it should send up

some red flags, some alarm bells, as

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this person might not actually be living

what they are teaching or talking about.

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And if people are not walking their talk,

you can be pretty sure that they can,

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they may be able to talk the talk and

they may be able to give an impressive

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flashy presentation, but there might

be something going on underneath now.

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Could you still get value from them?

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Yeah.

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Could you still learn from them?

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Yes.

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But you may also find that cracks

will start to appear at some point.

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I encourage you, take it as a red flag.

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It doesn't mean that

there is something wrong.

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It is an indication that there might

be, and that's perhaps something

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that you want to think about,

reflect on, investigate further.

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So how you show up on and

off stage is important.

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And I'll tell you this, the people who

I know who show up very similarly off

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stage to who they are on stage, yeah,

they might turn up the dials a bit,

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the energy gets higher, and they're

talking to a large group of people

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when they're on stage, but they're

pretty much the same person on and off.

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That's definitely a sign of congruence

and undoubtedly creates a level of trust

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that you feel like you can rely on.

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Our brains like to be able

to predict the future.

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We like predictability.

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It lightens our cognitive load,

and it also helps us to know

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who we can and can't trust now.

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Can these things be used against us?

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Can they be manipulated?

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Can they be created artificially?

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Yes, they can.

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And this is true of all

of Cialdini's principles.

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There are people who learn these

principles so that they can use them

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to get what they want, however.

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What research has often shown is that

the people who perhaps are very low

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empathy and have no issue with tricking

people or are quite happy to act

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unethically in these sorts of situations.

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They find a way to figure this stuff

out by themselves through trial and

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error of what works when you're trying

to trick people and get what you want.

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So a lot of the time they're not

actively going out and looking to learn

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from someone like Robert Cialdini.

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They are doing the trial and error method

of testing this out on people and seeing

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what works and what doesn't, and generally

finding that these principles do work.

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We are learning them from

an ethical viewpoint.

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As always, with everything I teach

here, and encourage it to be, used

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within an ethical framework, but

obviously I can't guarantee that

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because it is ultimately the end user

who determines whether it's gonna be

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used ethically or not, which is you.

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So you get to determine whether you use

these tools ethically or unethically.

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And my hope is you're

using them ethically.

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So speakers who are consistent in

branding, tone, values, and delivery.

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They become more trusted.

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They're more reliable if

you are all over the place.

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Even with things like your topic, if

you are shifting from topic to topic

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because you just want to speak, speak

about what's gonna get you the most

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money and what's popular at the time.

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It's not a great strategy for professional

speakers, and it is going to damage

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your brand and your trustability.

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So bookers will find it hard to book

you because they're not really gonna

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know who you are or what you are about.

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Now, sometimes when people

worry about their credibility.

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This is where the commitment

and consistency part can

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really come into play.

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Because if you are passionate and

committed to your topic and you

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are constantly learning more about

it and developing within that, you

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don't have to be the person with a

doctorate, and all the qualifications

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and knowledge about that, but you

have a passion and a knowledge and

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a real dedication to your topic.

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But that is gonna give you a

level of credibility in itself.

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Let's sum this up.

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Predictability creates

comfort and credibility.

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let's take a look as we do each

video at some of the unethical

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ways of using this and some of the

perhaps mistakes or misuses that

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you would hopefully want to avoid.

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Overusing commitment tactics

especially when it's too soon.

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If you are constantly raise your

hand, raise your hand, raise

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your hand with the audience,

they're gonna get fed up with it.

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There's this thing in speaking called

a yes set, and I'm thankfully, I don't

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see speakers doing it too much now, but

it really used to be that whole thing

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of training your audience to say yes.

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So it's question after question

after question, which are all the

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kinds of almost rhetorical questions.

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The only thing you can answer

to these questions is yes.

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So they do require an answer, but there's

only one answer you want people to give.

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The question of who here

wants to be more confident?

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Who here wants to be a great leader?

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Yeah.

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Who here wants to be successful?

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Is anyone really gonna say no to those?

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So these will, be used

in sequence to build on?

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Yes.

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After, yes.

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After.

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Yes.

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I personally have never found

that to be very effective.

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It does not create a yes

mindset in your audience.

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It's almost like tricking someone, reverse

psychology, like in an argument where

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you suddenly say to the other person what

they're arguing and they, they disagree.

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Ah, got you.

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But it's a trick and that's all

it is and it doesn't really work.

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So don't overuse commitment

tactics particularly, and don't

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go heavy handed with them either.

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One thing that is guaranteed to lose

trust for you is guilt tripping,

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and this can be done through reverse

psychology . Guys, I'll share with you,

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it's kind of an embarrassing story,

but I'll share it with you anyway.

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That when I was in Nashville last year,

I went to a karaoke night and one of

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the people I was with, I just wanted

to have fun and wanted to see everyone

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getting up on stage and joining in.

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And I got up and did my usual Dolly Parton

nine to five, which is my karaoke classic.

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And and I was really thrilled to be doing

that in Nashville as well of all places.

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And one of the girls in the team, I was

trying to encourage her to get up on

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stage, and then I tried using a little

bit of reverse psychology on it, saying,

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I thought you were really more of a go

get 'em kind of person stuff that, and

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she, she recognized straight what I was

doing and said, look, you're not gonna

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guilt trip me into going on the stage.

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I don't wanna do it.

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And straight away I was

like, oh my goodness, that

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is exactly what I was doing.

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And, and really it was not in any

kind of negative way, but I went and

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apologized afterwards and said, Hey,

look, I, I really didn't mean to do that.

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I just wanted to encourage you to have fun

and, maybe just went a little bit too far.

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It was cool.

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We were cool, was no big problem there,

but it was definitely a sort of, ooh.

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That's something to stay aware

of for the future of like,

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that's not a good way to be

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trying to encourage people to do

something far better to be, Hey look, is

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this something you'd really like to do?

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I'd love to see you up on the stage and

say, oh no, I don't really wanna do it.

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Or, yeah, I'd love to do

it, but I'm a be scared.

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Look, I'm here to support you.

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What can I say that's gonna

get you up on the stage?

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I think that that's much more valuable.

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Can you imagine yourself out there?

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What song would you sing?

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Yeah, you can give a lot more

encouragement, but guilt tripping.

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No, no, no.

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Stay well away from it and learn.

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Learn from my lesson, which

thankfully was in a very innocuous

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situation at least, but still I

felt the need to apologize for it.

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It's not good.

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Guilt and shame have been used to control

and manipulate people for centuries

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in various different ways in politics

and religion and all sorts of places.

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And they are negative techniques

that I don't recommend at all.

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If you are using audience participation

as a manipulation technique, that's

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also something to be aware of.

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If you're trying to lead things in a

particular way, and people are probably

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gonna, some people are gonna pick up on

that and they're really not gonna like

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it, they're gonna see that you are trying

to control an outcome in a situation

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and that it is forced manipulation.

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I see this in a lot of personal

development events and I'm not gonna

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name names here 'cause you'll know

who I'm talking about and I don't

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want people coming after me, but, the

people who really ramp up the passion

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and enthusiasm they have everyone

dancing and clapping and, high fives

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and arm pumping and all of that stuff.

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And they get so ramped up.

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It is ultimately a manipulation to get you

into a state where your emotions are so

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high that your rational mind is lowered.

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When we are in a high emotional

state, our intelligence goes down.

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Unfortunately, it just is less relevant.

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We're very much in the moment,

we're in the experience.

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We feel almost high on the experience

and we're not really thinking about it.

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We just go on instincts.

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We go on, Hey, I feel good right

now, and I want to keep feeling good.

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So we can end up making commitments and

making agreements, is a great time to

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get someone to commit to buying something

when they're on an emotional high.

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But is it an ethical time to get

people to buy some things again, if

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your result that you want is for them

to buy and for you to get them money.

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That's what you're gonna do.

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You're gonna use this.

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But if you are somewhat more ethical

and you think, sure, people are gonna

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make emotional decisions for sure, but

I don't wanna be manipulating their

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emotions purely to get them to do that.

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I want them to make a decision

with their heart and with

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their head as best they can.

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I think that's a better way to go forward.

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So yes.

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We do make our decisions emotionally,

generally, but that doesn't mean we

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should be using things like music and

dance and energy from other people, and

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peer pressure to a degree to create that.

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So forcing now can perhaps even force

consistency by making people feel trapped.

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Like they have to make that decision.

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Can almost, again, kind of using those

tricks, word tricks to manipulate

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people to, if this, then that.

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And if someone's been very clever

about this and put it together,

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they'll have people committing to

something earlier on and say, all

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right, well you committed to all of

this, and now the next step is this.

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Then they're gonna feel trapped

and that they have to do it.

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That's not really where

you want 'em to be.

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You want 'em to want to do it as well.

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Not that they're gonna feel that, oh,

well I guess I have to do that now

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because yeah, I said that about myself.

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Some.

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That's a part of it, but you

still want that to be ethical.

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One of the things that Cialdini

talked about in the book was getting

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people to put, signs on their lawns

I think it was from a political

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event something along those lines.

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Initially, a small gesture would be asked

for a small token or an easy commitment,

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like, would you put this flag up in your

window or would you donate 50 cents?

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Or whatever it is, and someone's

gonna easily, oh yeah, okay.

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That's easy to agree to.

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Once they've done that, if those

people then contacted them out

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later on and asked 'em to agree to

something bigger, they generally would.

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Not a hundred percent,

but generally they would.

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And so that's the principle at

work that once people make a small

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commitment, they're likely to go

on and make a bigger commitment.

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And I encourage you to use that and

to use it in ethical ways with your

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audience . Ultimately, this particular

tool is very open to unethical use.

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I probably have seen it used

more unethically than ethically.

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That should tell you something about it.

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I do feel it's such a powerful tool

that we should be using it ethically.

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So I encourage you to do that.

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Support people's alignment, not shame.

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We want people to feel aligned

and that they're making the

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right decision for them.

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We want to encourage

growth, but not pressure.

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We don't wanna put pressure on people.

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We want them to want it, and

through doing that, we're gonna

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build trust rather than control.

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As we think about this and think about

how you might be wanting to use some of

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this in your own speaking, especially if

you are doing things like workshops or

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if you're selling from the stage and you

particularly want people to take action on

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what you are teaching and talking about.

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Commitment and consistency is

about more than persuasion.

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It's really about helping people

to become who they want to be, and

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that then helps you to be a speaker

that they trust a trusted guide.

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So if you want to be

remembered, be consistent.

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You wanna be booked.

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Again, help audiences to

commit to what they want.

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And if you've got value from this

episode, well subscribe, share it

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with a fellow speaker, and check the

description for more influence resources.

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But until the next episode in this series

before we move on to some other areas.

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Stay present, stay consistent,

and stay influential.

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John Ball is a keynote coach and professional speaker on a mission to help upcoming leaders master their communication, create impact and stand out as experts in their field.
John left the high life of his flying career to do something more meaningful to him and has since worked with several leading personal and professional development organisations as a lead coach and trainer.
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