Episode 224
Commitment & Consistency: High Value Strategies for Speakers
Harnessing Commitment and Consistency: Ethical Influence for Speakers
Summary
This episode delves into the power of commitment and consistency from Dr. Robert Cialdini's Influence Framework, specifically for public speakers. The discussion covers how small 'yeses' can lead to bigger outcomes and why people stick to their decisions. The episode offers practical tips for speakers to ethically apply this principle to build trust, reinforce decisions, and boost conversions without using manipulative tactics. It emphasises the importance of congruence and reliability, both on and off-stage, and warns against unethical uses of commitment tactics. Key strategies include prompting small commitments, encouraging physical actions, and using inclusive language to foster alignment. The episode concludes with a summary of ethical influence, aiming to help speakers become trusted and consistent guides for their audiences.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Commitment and Consistency
00:32 Applying Commitment in Speaking
02:12 Creating Audience Engagement
04:11 Ethical Considerations in Influence
04:57 Consistency in Personal Branding
09:45 Avoiding Manipulative Tactics
16:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Transcript
Why is it that small yeses from your audience can lead to bigger outcomes?
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:Why do people stick to decisions
even when they're no longer ideal?
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:Maybe even shown to be wrong.
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:It's all down to one of the most
powerful drivers of behavior, which
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:is commitment and consistency.
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:One more principle from Dr.
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:Robert Cialdini's Influence Framework.
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:And if you haven't already been
watching this whole series of episodes
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:on Cialdini's principles as they
relate to speakers, then you're
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:welcome to go back and start from the
beginning or start from this episode
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:and go and catch up on the others.
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:Later.
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:We are diving into how speakers can
ethically apply this principle to
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:build trust, reinforce decisions, and
boost conversions without using pushy
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:tactics or strong arm manipulation.
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:Now, whether you're speaking on keynotes,
webinars, workshops, or whatever it is,
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:this is your secret weapon to helping
your audience say yes and mean it.
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:So what do commitment and
consistency really mean?
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:Well, commitment means taking
a stance verbally in writing
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:or through small actions.
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:Making some small dedication, commitment,
and consistency then relates to this in
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:the human desire to behave in ways that
match our past decisions and our identity.
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:We want to be seen and we
want to see ourselves as
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:reliable, as congruent people.
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:And we also want to see
that in others as well.
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:So it's important as speakers that we
are congruent and reliable as well,
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:and not doing so can damage trust.
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:Chaldini found that people who made
small active and public commitments
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:were far more likely to follow through.
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:So as a speaker, you can invite,
Tiny moments of commitment
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:that create deeper buy-in.
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:Now, one of the ways that I've seen
this, and I mentioned it in a earlier
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:video, was about people being sent
to the back of the room to buy these
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:jars, so jars that they could put
money into, help manage their finances.
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:What that sales call was about was
training people into rushing toward the
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:back of the room so that they would be
in the habit of doing that later on.
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:They'd already made a small commitment
to something that was part of a bigger
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:picture, and so it was easier for
most to go on and say yes to further
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:learning and development that was gonna
be offered throughout the program.
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:So how do you create audience
commitment from the stage?
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:Well, this doesn't mean making people
chant or sign contracts in the middle of
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:your talk, it's about creating alignment.
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:You want to ask small, relevant
questions, like, who here wants
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:to lead with more confidence?
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:Maybe you raise your hand up
so that you encourage other
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:people to raise theirs as well.
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:You can even ask, show of hands, who
here wants to lead with more confidence?
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:Is anyone gonna answer no to that?
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:Probably not, but here's a, here's
a little speaker trick for you.
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:So as you say, who here wants
to leave with more confidence?
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:You raise your hand.
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:Anybody no?
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:No.
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:Anybody who's not gonna raise
the hand, no matter what I say.
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:And you might get a laugh, but
you'll probably get compliance from
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:most of the people in the audience.
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:It's a small commitment.
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:Encourage a physical action.
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:Raise your hand if this
has ever happened to you.
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:Encouraging the physical action
can make a huge difference as well.
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:It creates that public commitment
or public agreement that people will
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:then want to stay congruent with.
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:You could get people to write
something down, like, what's one thing
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:you're committing to try this week?
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:Use inclusive language when
you speak, like together, we're
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:stepping into whatever it is.
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:And when people make small commitments
even privately, they begin seeing
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:themselves as someone who takes action.
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:Your job is to make the next steps
easy, consistent, and aligned.
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:We want commitment in your offer
or your call to action as well.
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:So if your talk leads to a program,
a download or an offer, tie it
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:back to some earlier moments.
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:Now, examples, this could be like if
you said to your audience, if you wrote
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:down that you want to communicate more
clearly this workbook will guide you.
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:Now, you already said you want
to be a more confident speaker.
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:This is the next step.
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:Don't pressure, but instead affirm
the identity that they have taken.
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:Something like this is for speakers
like you who follow through.
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:Do you see what this works by?
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:This language is okay.
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:It's what we could call manipulation, but
there's always gonna be manipulation and
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:it's not necessarily a negative thing.
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:And you may have heard me talk about
this before, if you watched other videos.
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:We are always manipulating situations,
consciously and unconsciously, and really
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:where it becomes negative is where we're
just doing it for our own ends rather
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:than for the benefit of other people.
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:Here's how we can know if
we're being ethical with this.
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:Are we doing it for their
benefit or solely for us?
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:Now, it's okay if you get some benefit
from helping them, but if the primary
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:goal is helping others to get what
they want, you can be pretty sure
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:that you are in more ethical territory
than you just grabbing loads of money
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:and getting all the sales through
and getting exactly what you want.
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:Here's the thing, consistency
builds trust in you too.
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:So it's not just what your
audience commits to, it's also
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:what you consistently show.
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:This is gonna mean checking in on
things like are you aligned with
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:your messaging across your platforms?
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:What about your branding?
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:Do you look the same in different
places where you show up?
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:How do you show up on stage and off stage?
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:Some people are vastly
different personalities off
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:the stage than they are on it.
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:I've seen this many times and it
does create a lack of congruence.
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:It does create a sense of mistrust
that you know, that that person
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:has maybe just done a performance
because that's not who they are.
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:They have acted the part
rather than being that.
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:And that might send up some red flags.
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:In fact, I feel like it should send up
some red flags, some alarm bells, as
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:this person might not actually be living
what they are teaching or talking about.
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:And if people are not walking their talk,
you can be pretty sure that they can,
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:they may be able to talk the talk and
they may be able to give an impressive
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:flashy presentation, but there might
be something going on underneath now.
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:Could you still get value from them?
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:Yeah.
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:Could you still learn from them?
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:Yes.
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:But you may also find that cracks
will start to appear at some point.
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:I encourage you, take it as a red flag.
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:It doesn't mean that
there is something wrong.
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:It is an indication that there might
be, and that's perhaps something
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:that you want to think about,
reflect on, investigate further.
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:So how you show up on and
off stage is important.
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:And I'll tell you this, the people who
I know who show up very similarly off
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:stage to who they are on stage, yeah,
they might turn up the dials a bit,
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:the energy gets higher, and they're
talking to a large group of people
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:when they're on stage, but they're
pretty much the same person on and off.
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:That's definitely a sign of congruence
and undoubtedly creates a level of trust
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:that you feel like you can rely on.
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:Our brains like to be able
to predict the future.
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:We like predictability.
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:It lightens our cognitive load,
and it also helps us to know
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:who we can and can't trust now.
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:Can these things be used against us?
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:Can they be manipulated?
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:Can they be created artificially?
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:Yes, they can.
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:And this is true of all
of Cialdini's principles.
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:There are people who learn these
principles so that they can use them
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:to get what they want, however.
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:What research has often shown is that
the people who perhaps are very low
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:empathy and have no issue with tricking
people or are quite happy to act
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:unethically in these sorts of situations.
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:They find a way to figure this stuff
out by themselves through trial and
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:error of what works when you're trying
to trick people and get what you want.
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:So a lot of the time they're not
actively going out and looking to learn
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:from someone like Robert Cialdini.
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:They are doing the trial and error method
of testing this out on people and seeing
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:what works and what doesn't, and generally
finding that these principles do work.
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:We are learning them from
an ethical viewpoint.
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:As always, with everything I teach
here, and encourage it to be, used
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:within an ethical framework, but
obviously I can't guarantee that
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:because it is ultimately the end user
who determines whether it's gonna be
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:used ethically or not, which is you.
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:So you get to determine whether you use
these tools ethically or unethically.
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:And my hope is you're
using them ethically.
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:So speakers who are consistent in
branding, tone, values, and delivery.
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:They become more trusted.
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:They're more reliable if
you are all over the place.
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:Even with things like your topic, if
you are shifting from topic to topic
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:because you just want to speak, speak
about what's gonna get you the most
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:money and what's popular at the time.
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:It's not a great strategy for professional
speakers, and it is going to damage
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:your brand and your trustability.
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:So bookers will find it hard to book
you because they're not really gonna
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:know who you are or what you are about.
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:Now, sometimes when people
worry about their credibility.
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:This is where the commitment
and consistency part can
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:really come into play.
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:Because if you are passionate and
committed to your topic and you
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:are constantly learning more about
it and developing within that, you
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:don't have to be the person with a
doctorate, and all the qualifications
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:and knowledge about that, but you
have a passion and a knowledge and
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:a real dedication to your topic.
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:But that is gonna give you a
level of credibility in itself.
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:Let's sum this up.
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:Predictability creates
comfort and credibility.
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:let's take a look as we do each
video at some of the unethical
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:ways of using this and some of the
perhaps mistakes or misuses that
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:you would hopefully want to avoid.
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:Overusing commitment tactics
especially when it's too soon.
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:If you are constantly raise your
hand, raise your hand, raise
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:your hand with the audience,
they're gonna get fed up with it.
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:There's this thing in speaking called
a yes set, and I'm thankfully, I don't
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:see speakers doing it too much now, but
it really used to be that whole thing
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:of training your audience to say yes.
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:So it's question after question
after question, which are all the
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:kinds of almost rhetorical questions.
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:The only thing you can answer
to these questions is yes.
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:So they do require an answer, but there's
only one answer you want people to give.
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:The question of who here
wants to be more confident?
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:Who here wants to be a great leader?
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:Yeah.
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:Who here wants to be successful?
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:Is anyone really gonna say no to those?
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:So these will, be used
in sequence to build on?
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:Yes.
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:After, yes.
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:After.
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:Yes.
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:I personally have never found
that to be very effective.
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:It does not create a yes
mindset in your audience.
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:It's almost like tricking someone, reverse
psychology, like in an argument where
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:you suddenly say to the other person what
they're arguing and they, they disagree.
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:Ah, got you.
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:But it's a trick and that's all
it is and it doesn't really work.
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:So don't overuse commitment
tactics particularly, and don't
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:go heavy handed with them either.
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:One thing that is guaranteed to lose
trust for you is guilt tripping,
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:and this can be done through reverse
psychology . Guys, I'll share with you,
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:it's kind of an embarrassing story,
but I'll share it with you anyway.
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:That when I was in Nashville last year,
I went to a karaoke night and one of
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:the people I was with, I just wanted
to have fun and wanted to see everyone
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:getting up on stage and joining in.
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:And I got up and did my usual Dolly Parton
nine to five, which is my karaoke classic.
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:And and I was really thrilled to be doing
that in Nashville as well of all places.
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:And one of the girls in the team, I was
trying to encourage her to get up on
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:stage, and then I tried using a little
bit of reverse psychology on it, saying,
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:I thought you were really more of a go
get 'em kind of person stuff that, and
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:she, she recognized straight what I was
doing and said, look, you're not gonna
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:guilt trip me into going on the stage.
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:I don't wanna do it.
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:And straight away I was
like, oh my goodness, that
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:is exactly what I was doing.
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:And, and really it was not in any
kind of negative way, but I went and
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:apologized afterwards and said, Hey,
look, I, I really didn't mean to do that.
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:I just wanted to encourage you to have fun
and, maybe just went a little bit too far.
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:It was cool.
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:We were cool, was no big problem there,
but it was definitely a sort of, ooh.
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:That's something to stay aware
of for the future of like,
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:that's not a good way to be
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:trying to encourage people to do
something far better to be, Hey look, is
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:this something you'd really like to do?
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:I'd love to see you up on the stage and
say, oh no, I don't really wanna do it.
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:Or, yeah, I'd love to do
it, but I'm a be scared.
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:Look, I'm here to support you.
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:What can I say that's gonna
get you up on the stage?
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:I think that that's much more valuable.
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:Can you imagine yourself out there?
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:What song would you sing?
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:Yeah, you can give a lot more
encouragement, but guilt tripping.
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:No, no, no.
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:Stay well away from it and learn.
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:Learn from my lesson, which
thankfully was in a very innocuous
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:situation at least, but still I
felt the need to apologize for it.
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:It's not good.
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:Guilt and shame have been used to control
and manipulate people for centuries
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:in various different ways in politics
and religion and all sorts of places.
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:And they are negative techniques
that I don't recommend at all.
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:If you are using audience participation
as a manipulation technique, that's
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:also something to be aware of.
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:If you're trying to lead things in a
particular way, and people are probably
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:gonna, some people are gonna pick up on
that and they're really not gonna like
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:it, they're gonna see that you are trying
to control an outcome in a situation
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:and that it is forced manipulation.
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:I see this in a lot of personal
development events and I'm not gonna
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:name names here 'cause you'll know
who I'm talking about and I don't
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:want people coming after me, but, the
people who really ramp up the passion
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:and enthusiasm they have everyone
dancing and clapping and, high fives
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:and arm pumping and all of that stuff.
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:And they get so ramped up.
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:It is ultimately a manipulation to get you
into a state where your emotions are so
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:high that your rational mind is lowered.
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:When we are in a high emotional
state, our intelligence goes down.
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:Unfortunately, it just is less relevant.
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:We're very much in the moment,
we're in the experience.
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:We feel almost high on the experience
and we're not really thinking about it.
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:We just go on instincts.
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:We go on, Hey, I feel good right
now, and I want to keep feeling good.
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:So we can end up making commitments and
making agreements, is a great time to
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:get someone to commit to buying something
when they're on an emotional high.
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:But is it an ethical time to get
people to buy some things again, if
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:your result that you want is for them
to buy and for you to get them money.
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:That's what you're gonna do.
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:You're gonna use this.
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:But if you are somewhat more ethical
and you think, sure, people are gonna
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:make emotional decisions for sure, but
I don't wanna be manipulating their
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:emotions purely to get them to do that.
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:I want them to make a decision
with their heart and with
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:their head as best they can.
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:I think that's a better way to go forward.
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:So yes.
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:We do make our decisions emotionally,
generally, but that doesn't mean we
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:should be using things like music and
dance and energy from other people, and
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:peer pressure to a degree to create that.
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:So forcing now can perhaps even force
consistency by making people feel trapped.
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:Like they have to make that decision.
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:Can almost, again, kind of using those
tricks, word tricks to manipulate
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:people to, if this, then that.
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:And if someone's been very clever
about this and put it together,
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:they'll have people committing to
something earlier on and say, all
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:right, well you committed to all of
this, and now the next step is this.
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:Then they're gonna feel trapped
and that they have to do it.
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:That's not really where
you want 'em to be.
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:You want 'em to want to do it as well.
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:Not that they're gonna feel that, oh,
well I guess I have to do that now
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:because yeah, I said that about myself.
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:Some.
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:That's a part of it, but you
still want that to be ethical.
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:One of the things that Cialdini
talked about in the book was getting
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:people to put, signs on their lawns
I think it was from a political
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:event something along those lines.
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:Initially, a small gesture would be asked
for a small token or an easy commitment,
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:like, would you put this flag up in your
window or would you donate 50 cents?
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:Or whatever it is, and someone's
gonna easily, oh yeah, okay.
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:That's easy to agree to.
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:Once they've done that, if those
people then contacted them out
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:later on and asked 'em to agree to
something bigger, they generally would.
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:Not a hundred percent,
but generally they would.
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:And so that's the principle at
work that once people make a small
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:commitment, they're likely to go
on and make a bigger commitment.
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:And I encourage you to use that and
to use it in ethical ways with your
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:audience . Ultimately, this particular
tool is very open to unethical use.
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:I probably have seen it used
more unethically than ethically.
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:That should tell you something about it.
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:I do feel it's such a powerful tool
that we should be using it ethically.
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:So I encourage you to do that.
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:Support people's alignment, not shame.
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:We want people to feel aligned
and that they're making the
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:right decision for them.
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:We want to encourage
growth, but not pressure.
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:We don't wanna put pressure on people.
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:We want them to want it, and
through doing that, we're gonna
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:build trust rather than control.
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:As we think about this and think about
how you might be wanting to use some of
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:this in your own speaking, especially if
you are doing things like workshops or
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:if you're selling from the stage and you
particularly want people to take action on
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:what you are teaching and talking about.
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:Commitment and consistency is
about more than persuasion.
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:It's really about helping people
to become who they want to be, and
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:that then helps you to be a speaker
that they trust a trusted guide.
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:So if you want to be
remembered, be consistent.
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:You wanna be booked.
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:Again, help audiences to
commit to what they want.
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:And if you've got value from this
episode, well subscribe, share it
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:with a fellow speaker, and check the
description for more influence resources.
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:But until the next episode in this series
before we move on to some other areas.
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:Stay present, stay consistent,
and stay influential.