Episode 207
The Human Equation in Ethical Persuasion: Insights from Dr. Thomas Trautmann
Harnessing Ethical Persuasion and Influence with Dr. Thomas Trautmann
Summary
This episode of 'Present Influence' features John Ball's conversation with Dr. Thomas Trautmann, an expert in AI, neuroscience, and neuro-marketing.
They delve into the significance of ethical persuasion and influence in sales and marketing, differentiating it from manipulation.
Dr. Trautmann explains how ethical persuasion focuses on addressing subconscious frustrations to build lasting customer relationships. John echoes the importance of acting within ethical frameworks, highlighting how genuine human connections foster trust and long-term success.
The episode also touches on the impact of post-COVID-19 social behaviours and the role of human interaction in the digital age.
For all the key points, actionable content and relevant resources mentioned in the episode, download this summary: Episode #207 Summary
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Sales and Ethical Persuasion
00:32 Meet Dr. Thomas Trautmann: Expert in AI and Neuroscience Neuromarketing
01:26 Understanding Neuromarketing and Ethical Persuasion
02:50 The Importance of Ethical Frameworks in Influence
04:08 The Role of the Brain in Decision Making
05:32 Building Long-Term Customer Relationships
15:50 Creating Emotional Variations for Effective Communication
19:30 Silent Listening and Tactical Empathy in Sales
23:33 The Power of Influence and Energy
24:28 Ethical Manipulation and Responsibility
25:34 The Role of Rational and Primal Brain
27:15 Effective Sales Techniques
28:01 Understanding Subconscious Frustrations
29:31 The Importance of Solving Problems
32:47 AI and Human Connection
36:46 The Need for Human Relationships
39:45 The Impact of Smiling and Mirror Neurons
42:30 Conclusion and Personal Philosophy
44:48 Upcoming Episodes and Coaching Opportunities
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Transcript
It doesn't seem to matter what business you're in.
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:You're in the business of sales.
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:If you have a product or service
or even just an idea, we need to be
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:able to sell other people on that.
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:Some people have lots of negative
associations to sales, and
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:some people even have negative
associations to marketing, seeing
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:it as pure manipulation, but.
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:Whenever I have talked about influence
and persuasion on this show, I've
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:always aimed to do that within an
ethical framework or been very clear
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:about where stuff potentially could be
outside of those kinds of frameworks.
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:My guest today is Dr.
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:Thomas Troutman and he is an expert
in AI and neuroscience neuromarketing.
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:Dr.
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:Trautmann sat down and talked with
me about ethical persuasion and
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:influence in sales and marketing.
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:It's a really fascinating conversation
with some great insights, and
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:undoubtedly you may want to go
and check out more of his work.
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:After the show, I will give you
all the links and everything
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:you need to check out.
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:Dr.
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:Chapman will be in the show notes.
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:I will also provide you a free
summary of the conversation that you
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:can download from the show notes as
well, if you would like to keep that
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:with you with all the key points and
actionable content from this episode.
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:I.
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:Right now, welcome to Present
Influence the show for professional
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:communicators who want to
impact, influence, and inspire.
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:My name's John Ball and I'm your
guide on this journey to mastery
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:level communication skills.
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:One of the reasons I'm very happy to
talk to you today is because I know that
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:you work in the area of neuromarketing,
and I think it's something that
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:people have probably heard about.
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:Maybe a bit like me.
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:What is that exactly?
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:So could you tell us a little
bit about what Neuromarketing is?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: yeah, absolutely.
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:Neuromarketing is in fact the.
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:The implementation of brain science
inside, inside marketing and sales.
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:And I went one step further.
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:I created ethical persuasion
because neuromarketing is very
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:focused towards the business.
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:And don't get me wrong,
it's working extremely well.
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:It brings you to a digit growth
easily, that in your marketing,
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:even though it's targeting the human
brain, there is a lack of humanity.
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:When I was teaching neuromarketing
to employees from companies they
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:were learning a lot on how to
improve the company, but they
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:didn't get anything for themselves.
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:So my desire was to add
humanity to neuromarketing.
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:That's why I created ethical persuasion,
which is in fact, something where
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:you get first something for you that
you can then implement with the same
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:growth that Neuromarketing offers,
or at least you have something that
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:you can use in your everyday life.
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:John: I like that you bring in ethical
persuasion into this, and it's one of
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:the reasons I think I really liked what
you talk about and how you were thought,
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:I would say, how would I best say this?
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:How you would describing what you
do that I've talked about ethical
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:persuasion on this show since the
very first episode back in:
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:Not on every episode, but it's
been a common theme throughout.
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:And for me that's been the whole thing
of I've learned all sorts of tools
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:of influence and persuasion over the
years, and I've learned even more since.
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:And Robert Alini talks about this in
his books on influence these tools of
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:influence are just tools and they can
be used for good or bad, but we want to
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:teach them within an ethical framework
because that's how they should be applied.
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:Even if you go back to the time of.
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:Plato and Aristotle, like
Aristotle thought that no
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:one could abuse this stuff.
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:And Plato's no, I think they pretty much
can, but let's hope that they don't that
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:we teach within an ethical framework.
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:Why did that become so important to you?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Because in
fact when you ethical persuasion
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:my system is called the ethical
persuader, so it's a little gameplay
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:because a persuader in English sl.
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:It's a gun I put on your head
to get something from you.
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:So ethical per the ethical persuader, it
makes that too ethical because the ethical
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:persuader system is all about you getting
from the people, the decisions you want,
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:why they make the decision they need.
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:And that's only possible if you
target the part of the brain that's
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:running the decision process.
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:So you mentioned Robert Cialdini
and the Six Truths of Influence.
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:You can take many of the rules like
urgency or scarcity, for example,
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:that have been abused over the time.
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:Some air travel companies, well known
for, it's the last seat for 50 pounds
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:or 50 euro or $50, and you come three
days later and the next seat is at 48.
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:We all know that.
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:Or it's the, those are the
two last phones left by now.
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:One months later, they have
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:That's abusing those things.
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:So the brain, we default to
make a decision because that's
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:how our brain is configured.
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:But, and that's the beauty of ethical
persuasion, is that if you keep doing
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:it as if has been done before, you
create, of course cells, fast cells,
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:but you don't create recurring cells
and with ethical persuasion, in fact.
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:You have, you increase your chance up to
70 person to create recurring business.
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:It's well known.
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:Dan Kennedy in marketing
says, A buyer is a buyer.
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:It's easier to sell to someone who
already bought from you than to
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:always try to run as than new clients.
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:You need new clients.
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:Don't get me wrong.
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:You need your clients.
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:But after that, once they become your
client, that's where you can start.
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:To raise the price of the ticket that
you're selling, so that's the whole idea.
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:John: Would you say then it is
making the realization in sales that.
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:The long-term value of a relationship
and a customer is worth more than
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:just one sale, where they're not
gonna trust you again afterwards.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Absolutely.
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:It's all about, my brand
now is called Make Me Great.
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:It's not make me great.
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:It's what your clients are saying.
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:It's what the brain of your clients
is shouting at you is Make me great.
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:Think about me, work on me, I don't
want to hear about your products,
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:your services, your sales, your brand.
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:I want you to make me great.
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:And that's when you elevate your clients.
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:In fact, you elevate your
success because that brain is
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:going to fall in love with you.
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:It's going to want to follow you.
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:It is going to be part
of what I call the tribe.
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:Your tribe.
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:The human species is a tribal species.
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:We cannot live on our own.
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:We belong to many tribes.
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:Family, church, sports club
company, the division set of the
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:company, and so on and so forth.
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:And when you belong to a tribe, you
expect a lot from the tribe leader.
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:John: Yeah.
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:And.
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:From one perspective, then it almost
takes away that regardless of your own
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:personal ethics, being ethical in this
way is actually better for business and
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:better for your profits and results.
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:But hopefully maybe also helps people
feel a bit more virtuous that they're not
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:just scamming or trying to rip people off.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Yeah, when you are,
as you said, scamming or you are putting
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:pressure on people, like the famous old
encyclopedia cellar or a vacant cleaner
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:cellar who put the foot inside of the door
to get in the house and make this demo.
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:You always have something nagging
in the back of your mind, except if
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:you're a completely unethical person,
which is not, I guess the case of
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:your audience and of most people.
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:So when you do it ethical, you
feel great because in fact you
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:go back to being a human being,
get results by being who you are.
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:By enjoying being yourself, by
enjoying being with other people.
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:I always love it.
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:I have a client who each time
I travel ask me, Thomas, do
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:you have a new airport story?
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:Because it is very funny.
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:For the last couple of times
I went to the airport once.
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:If I may give a few examples once you
know there the safety cues for everyone
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:who travels through an airport, safety
cues are the worst nightmare you can get.
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:'cause it lasts ages and you have to
unpack every, et cetera, et cetera.
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:I arrive at the airport close to
where I live in France, and there
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:was a sign with an acronym, and I
see that acronym quite a few times,
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:but I had no idea what it means.
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:So to the poor guy who was standing
there all day and driving us from one
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:queue to the other one, I just went to
him and asked him, what is that about?
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:It's what does it mean?
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:And so somehow I pay attention to him.
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:It wasn't about me getting as
fast as possible through that.
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:It was me.
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:Having a human relationship
and asking a question, paying
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:attention to his brain somehow.
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:So he didn't know it, but as he
appreciated me paying attention to
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:him, I was moving ahead away from him.
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:He said, sir, please come back.
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:I would like you to go through this
queue, which is a fast track queue.
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:So I ended up being the only one.
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:And the safety agent who was
there, we asked her the question.
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:So she also gets some interest from
two people, and she took special
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:care from of me, the other day I
was at the Starbucks at the airport,
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:and I was very nice with the guys.
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:Usually the glass rose there and so on.
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:So I had made some jokes and so on.
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:That's my way to be because I,
I do ethical persuasion, right?
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:And instead of having a coffee, I got a
huge cappuccino and a huge iced coffee.
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:I told the poor guy I'm not
going to be and everything.
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:He says, no problem.
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:It's for the pleasure.
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:So you create very
different relationships.
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:John: Yeah.
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:The reciprocity kicks in as well, right?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Exactly.
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:John: I love that.
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:What's not in your head?
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:What is not ethical when
it comes to persuasion?
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:Then other than like the fake
scarcity and things like that, are
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:there particular techniques that you
think would never do that or would
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:never do them in a particular way?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: They're hammering
on people, insisting, because
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:then the brain in front of you.
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:We purchase from you
just to get rid of you.
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:The brain makes decisions on the spot.
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:So the audience has to understand
that the decision maker in the brain
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:or the part of the brain running the
decisions has no clue about the future.
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:It's in the present.
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:It in fact, in the seven seconds window.
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:So you have to get the
decision in that timeframe.
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:When it makes a decision,
it needs to feel a gain.
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:At the moment the decision is made.
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:In fact, there is even one guy or some
guys who made the calculation the gain
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:the brain needs to feel has to be 2.3
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:times higher than the cost
of making the decision.
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:So if I summarize it, I'm selling you
something for 100 euros or dollars.
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:Your brain has to immediately get that.
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:It's worth at least 230 euros or so.
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:So you have to get there.
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:But if I'm hammering on you all the
time, the gain is getting rid of you.
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:You know that's worth more than the
price of what you're selling to me.
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:But I will have defaulted to a
decision that's not helping me,
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:that's not helping my brain.
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:So then you are on the list of the people.
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:I know it.
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:We all know that all the tele
salespeople, even if someone is
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:good on the phone, we hate them.
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:We play with them.
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:We hang up.
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:So because they all use the same system
all the time, it's boring after a while.
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:John: No when I've done sales myself
and been in a sales setting and closing
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:team, the ethical part of it is so
important because there's ultimately
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:no point in getting people who really
don't want this onto a closing call where
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:you could pressure them into a close.
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:The closer is there to try and seal
the deal, but shouldn't be there to
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:hammer them and put pressure on to
get something you don't want because.
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:A day or a few, several days later,
they're like, ah, I didn't want this.
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:Now we're gonna complain.
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:Get a refund, kick up a stink, whatever.
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:It's more trouble than it's worth.
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:You want people to get
what they really want.
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:So I don't understand to some degree
unethical sales if you want to
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:have longevity in your business.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: The problem is people
have been trained that that it's not
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:their fault, it's, they have been trained
to be rational and 97% of people still
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:think we make rational decisions because
we add that superior species on earth.
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:We adapt to the earth to us, and so on.
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:But we still, for people have
to understand that the part of
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:the brain making the decisions
is called the primal brain.
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:It's the oldest part of our brain.
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:It's a survival tool and it's
stock evolving something like
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:100,000 to 50,000 years ago.
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:So it's running processes that were making
a lot of sense when we were living in
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:caves, running around naked in the jungle
or wherever, and trying to kill animals
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:with stones makes a lot of sense, except
that we are now in the 21st century.
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:And yeah, maybe those
problems should have changed.
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:They haven't.
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:So we still need to address that part
of the brain, and that part of the
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:brain is a survival tool, and as such
is only interested in the survival of
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:one and only one person on earth myself.
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:That's why you have to make, so
if you keep being rational, you're
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:trying to get the decision from
the rational part of the brain.
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:So the decision maker is super
frustrated, and by the way, that has
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:been demonstrated scientifically.
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:That's the primary break
is the decision maker.
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:There isn't even a guy, Daniel
Penman, who got a Noble Prize on
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:his research in 2011 on that thing.
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:If you keep being rational, but
as I always say, rational selling
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:equals a loss of resources.
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:You kill your resources because you
spend a lot of time hammering on them.
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:You will have to give discounts,
longer tested trials blah, blah,
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:blah, or more stuff together.
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:All people listening who do that,
we say, oh yeah, sure, yeah.
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:That's why I have to give a rebate.
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:That's why.
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:However, I have to lower my prices.
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:You should never lower your price.
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:You should find what is driving
the decision and maybe setting
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:them up on something that targets
more the decision or down, here's a
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:solution, not killing your margin.
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:John: I think that's where the
relationship is so important, right?
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:Is you.
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:If you have something that looks really
good on paper, like all the benefits are
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:there, all the value is there for you, but
you have a bad feeling about the person
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:or the overall thing, you're probably not
gonna go with it based on that feeling
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:because you know that the gut kicks in.
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:I know we can override our gut sometimes,
but we often end up regretting it.
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:But now usually the bad feeling is I
think there, people call it intuition,
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:but I think we do pick up on stuff.
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:Unconsciously that causes that to happen.
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:I don't just think it is like a some
sort of magical sense that we have rather
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:than it's all the unconscious or the
low level things that we've picked up
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:on that have maybe damaged that trust.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Oh yeah
there, there are a lot of things.
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:If just for the fun, how long,
how do you know how long it takes?
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:A brain who meets you for the
first time, who decide if it's
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:going to like you or hate you?
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:It takes 0.3
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:seconds.
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:John: No way.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: You come
through the door, it will say,
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:I dislike John, or I like John.
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:I may want to talk with him or
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:John: that quick?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: that quick.
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:And because we treat visual signals faster
than audio on the phone, you have four
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:seconds to make a good first impression.
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:So maybe it's better to be on the phone
but our brain loves visual, we are
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:body language readers, physiological
signal readers, because that's how
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:the primary brain communicates mostly.
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:John: And it makes sense.
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:Our brains are still looking
for dangers and focus.
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:We tend to still focus on the more
negative aspects and those things
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:will flag up a lot quicker to us.
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:What part does the re go into play with?
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:You knoweth the ethical persuasion.
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:If it's mostly an emotional thing.
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:Is it, how do we put the ethical part
into our emotional decision making?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: You need
emotions to make decisions.
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:And a lot of communication
agencies get it very wrong.
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:Because they haven't read Antonio Damo,
ch read a fundamental book in:
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:which is departs error because most
think, yeah, if I get an emotion, they're
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:going to make a decision, make him happy.
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:He's going to decide, I make
a sad, she's going to decide.
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:In fact, no, you have to
create an emotional variation.
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:So in those seven seconds,
you have to take them from one
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:emotional state to the next one.
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:That's very issue because the
primary brain runs on contrast.
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:It means contrast.
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:You, your brain is lying to you.
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:For example, when you get into
a freshly painted room, you
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:get in smells like fresh vent.
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:After five minutes, you cannot
smell the fresh man anymore.
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:The paint is still there.
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:The molecules are still there, but
as there is no contrast, because
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:Calculation power.
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:If I want to compare it to a computer,
it just discards information,
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:which is not contrasted because
it's it's useless for the break.
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:It's the same thing when
it comes to emotion.
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:If you only drive in the same emotion,
I will not, I couldn't care less.
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:If you create that emotional
variation, then something happens
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:and you can create it once.
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:You know what triggers a decision.
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:John: Yeah.
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:And that's a critical element
for all levels of communication.
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:One that comes up a lot working with
professional speakers of this vocal
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:variety, emotional variation in how
you talk and what you talk about.
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:If everything's all at one level,
as you say, we switch off to it
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:and we, we actually get bored
surprisingly quick, I think.
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:Which isn't good.
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:And so we'll try and keep the
variety going on the podcast
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:so people can, listening to us.
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:But let me ask you, who are the
kind of people that you've generally
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:worked with and what kind of benefits
have they seen from employing
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:these ethical persuasion systems.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: So I work with
entrepreneurs, business owners,
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:CXOs, and what they see is, first of
all, the relationships are changing.
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:The effect on their business is crazy.
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:But if I just a very simple example.
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:I was coaching a team of salespeople
for one company and implementing
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:ethical persuasion requires an effort.
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:It's very easy to understand.
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:But it's a 180 degrees shift
in your thinking and way to
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:talk, sell to people.
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:No.
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:But that guy, it took him, it took
him two months to start to implement
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:the tools that I'm teaching.
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:One of them being what I
call silent listening, and
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:paying attention to the other.
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:And he managed to do it during one
meeting and he says, how much is that?
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:Absolutely crazy.
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:I haven't spoken about my
services, my products, our
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:company, myself, I listen to them.
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:I paid attention to what
triggers the decision process.
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:And at the end of the meeting
they said, you know what?
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:We are going to work with
you because you care.
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:Boom.
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:John: Yeah.
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:People wanna know that you're listening
to them and you understand them.
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:And you may have come across Chris Voss
stuff with Never Split the Difference
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:where he talks about tactical empathy.
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:It's like you really listen, but you
also repeat back some stuff and say,
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:okay, it sounds like you're saying this.
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:It seems like you feel this way so
that people really get that sense.
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:Is that something that you would
bring in as well as one of the tools?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: But that's
something that you can use because
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:it just shows that you are listening.
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:I call it silent listening because
a lot of fun you are taught
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:listen to what people say, right?
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:It's very funny when you listen to what
someone says in your brain, it goes,
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:oh yeah, I need to talk about that.
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:And then we have to talk about this.
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:What?
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:And then you no more listen because
you're thinking about what you want
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:to tell, what the other person doesn't
care about what you want to tell.
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:So silent listening, and it's a tough one.
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:It is just.
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:Shut up.
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:I know up there.
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:Be quiet.
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:John: The hardest thing,
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: It's super
complex, and very often people
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:ask me, Thomas, give me a simple
trick I can implement right now.
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:I always say, use the view language
when you write an email, when you
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:pick up the phone with someone who
don't really know, with whom you don't
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:have a very advanced relationship.
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:You have to put everything in you.
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:John, you are currently having pleasure
doing this podcast and you are learning
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:something about ethical ion, and you
will get this and you will get that.
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:Usually we should say, Hey John, I'm
happy to be on your podcast because I'm
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:going to tell you about Ethical Ion.
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:It's the same message, just one I'm
talking about myself, because of
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:course my little brain is focused on
me while your brain is focused on you.
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:It's very difficult to
speak with the U language.
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:I can tell you it's super, it sounds super
easy, but it's so difficult because we
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:are, every one of us, even Mother Teresa,
we are all super self-centered animals.
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:John: Yeah, I'm very well aware of doing
that when I'm writing copy, particularly
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writing talks and presentations, that
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abstracts for things where you're saying,
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:that bookers are gonna be doing, that's.
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I just had a question about the
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like that thing and whether there's
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sales meeting or a sales call, the
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:And so it is partly your job
as the sales rep or closer.
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:So I can see why maybe being silent is
like people do actually talk themselves
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want, that they've come on the call for.
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:'cause they're probably not gonna
show up for a call or a meeting.
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:Otherwise if they're
not already interested.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Yeah, that's true.
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:But then you still have to persuade them.
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:Know they may be interested, but they have
made the decision to talk to you, but they
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:haven't made the decision to buy from you.
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:John: They're not over the
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: further with
you, it's like when you are talking
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:about speaking events and so on.
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:The only objective you should have
when you are speaking is to get the
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:decision from them to listen to you
and then don't get them bored to death.
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:But the first thing you
want them to listen.
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:And so you, it's again, it every,
in fact, people have to understand
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:that everything we do in our
life in our day is persuasion.
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:Some people will call it selling because
selling has a very bad reputation.
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:Because of all those past sales
techniques that were used and see some
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:that are used so people are even ashamed
to sell that they are a salesperson.
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:I'm sorry.
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:When you want to persuade your husband
or wife to go to a specific restaurant,
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:you are selling her or him on that.
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:Our kids are selling us all the time
and they are very bad salespeople,
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:but they're super efficient.
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:'cause they're going to hammer
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:John: Yeah.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: because
they know that what drives your
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:decision is to be left alone.
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:So they use that technique because
they know it's going to work.
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:They trigger your decision by
removing that pain from you.
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:So they are super good
subconsciously without knowing
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:it, they use the right technique.
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:So we are selling all the time.
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:So don't be ashamed to sell, to say that
you're selling, if you're a salesperson.
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:And do it ethically and it's life
would be so nicer for everyone.
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:John: There's always the thing that comes
out when we talk about persuasion or some
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:people seeing it just as manipulation and.
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:It's not untrue that it is, but I think
it's just that word has such negative
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:connotations for most people that you see
manipulation as being a really negative
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:thing that everything we do in life, as
you say, is pretty much there to either
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:consciously or unconsciously manipulate
people in our environment around us.
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:We are always influencing other people.
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:I think one of the things that
I, particularly think highlights
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:this is even the energy that we
show up in, in our daily lives is
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:influencing the people around us.
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:If we are grim and miserable, that's
what we are putting out to our, so
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:people are gonna react or respond
to us differently than if we are
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:smiling and warm and welcoming.
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:The way people respond around us and
react is gonna be very different.
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:So that is influence, that is persuasion.
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:You could even call it.
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:Unconscious manipulation,
unintentional even.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Yeah.
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:When it's unintentional, I still
think because it's unintentional I
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:would put it more into the ethical
side, because it's you and people
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:may react in one way or another,
but you have to go with it, right?
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:That's what you're projecting.
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:That's the energy that
you're giving people.
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:So if they react badly, but
subconsciously that's what you want.
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:And it's like when they sell, everything
that happens to you is because of you.
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:You're responsible of it.
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:If people are a pain on the phone,
then maybe you are a pain on the phone.
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:Maybe you should think about that.
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:If they are all grumpy around you, maybe
you know you're responsible for it.
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:So I said the same thing to my
son this morning, because yeah,
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:everyone is complaining and so on.
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:I said, what?
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:Everyone is complaining and
you're the only one in the middle.
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:Who do you think is the problem?
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:John: That's the thing the stuff
that triggers us, there's always
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:something to learn from it, otherwise
it wouldn't be triggering us.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Yeah, and then
you have to pay attention to that.
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:But as you're super sensitive, you don't
care because you think you're right.
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:No.
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:It's what's very complex
with our brain is that.
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:The thing that could save us from many
bad decisions is our rational brain.
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:And the more educated you are the
better The environment where you
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:live, your the more efficient that
rational brain is going to be.
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:And it's for the neocortex, by the way.
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:The only strong is that neuro cortex
is 200 times slower than the private
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:brain, than the decision maker in.
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:A very good example is when you
have an argument with someone
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well known two words, in fact.
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:Yes.
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:But I'm sure you experience it the
moment you say, but there is an
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:Yes, but comes out by the primal
brain and the rational brain says,
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:don't say that, but it's too late.
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:It's out, and you know you are in trouble.
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:The yes, but is a good one.
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:Everyone says it.
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:John: Yeah.
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:It is and it is some,
and it's come up before.
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and have consciously worked on
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:switching the Yes buts to Yes.
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:And because of the way that the
word, but just negates some other
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:The yes and philosophy is one from improv
of, allows people to throw the ball back.
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:It keeps the communication going
and doesn't negate the other person.
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:But like you gonna mention before we have.
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so naturally to us.
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:And so like them being a bit
quieter, keeping our mouth shut
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:when we're, and really listening
to people, that takes time.
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:Even the sales techniques that do work.
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:Ethical sales techniques that do
work and help people to get to a
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:decision and take time to learn.
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:What would be examples
from what you teach of.
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:What actually does help to lead people
ethically to the decision beyond listening
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:well and not negating what they're saying.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: The very first
thing you have to do is to get that
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:brain in front of you, to listen to
you, and the easiest way to do that
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:is to show to that brain that you
know what triggers the decision.
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:What triggers the decision is
called a subconscious frustration.
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:Very often in marketing or in
sales, they talk about the pain.
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:What are the pain points of the client?
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:It's his business, it's his
employees, it's the market.
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:So those are rational pain points,
but they don't trigger the decision.
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:What triggers the decision is a
set of subconscious frustrations,
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:and if in the very few.
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:First two words you use, you show
to that brain that you know what the
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:subconscious frustrations are or what
the highest subconscious frustration in
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:relationship to what you are selling.
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:Of course, 'cause we are thousands
of subconscious frustrations.
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:But you are, you want the one that's
connected to what you're doing.
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very simple sentence that you know it,
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it's going to want to listen to you.
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:Because you are going to do your best
to remove that subconscious frustration.
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:That's the moment where you become
ethical because you made the work to
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:get a decision that works for you.
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:But as it removes on their side, that
subconscious frustration, you are helping
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:them, the brain is going to love you.
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:It takes more time.
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:It doesn't cost you resources
because the brain going to go for it.
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:I mainly never negotiate one of my prices.
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:'cause why would I, my, the
price is the value of my service.
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:But as my service removes the subconscious
ation and it matches how all those
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:things work that don't deplete my
resources, but it takes me more time.
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:'cause I have to study who I'm talking to.
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:I have to understand who they are.
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:I have to understand what subconscious
frustrations are driving their decisions.
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:How I can trigger this.
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:John: I do find I come across this and
I've experienced it myself to some degree.
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:'cause I work a lot in the
coaching and speaking world.
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:That a lot of people who are
professional coaches, professional
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:speakers don't quite get that they
actually need to be solving a problem.
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:They maybe want to have a message out
there, or they have this idea of, this
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or this is how I want to help people
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:and aren't always clear on the problem
that they're solving for other people.
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:And you're talking about the
frustration points and that you.
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:Now you can charge what
you do because you solve.
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:Solve a frustration point for
them that's solving the problem.
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:If you weren't solving a problem for
them, the lever to make the purchase
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:decision is gonna be much more difficult.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Yeah, or you
have to default to manipulation,
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:ion influence, and all those things.
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:Again, you're going, you reduce sales.
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:People have been selling with those
techniques for ages, but what you
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:catch are what I call the tire kickers.
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:You don't get those who are going to
build a relationship with you and be
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:recurring customers and very often people.
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:It requires what, I'm sorry, there is no
magic wand here, or magic sauce or secret.
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:It requires work.
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:It requires you to make the effort.
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:We have reached a stage in a
time where everyone thinks that
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:you get everything in a click.
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:I'm sorry.
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:No.
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:And they all run after
those magic bullets.
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:I'm coaching people and the first thing we
do is let's stop with the magic bullets.
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:Let's work, let's focus on something
that, where you can help someone you can
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:help to remove subconscious frustrations.
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:Who is the person who
is your ideal client?
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:People don't even know sometimes who
they want to sell to, who's either
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:ideal client, and once they know it,
what's a subconscious frustration?
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:Oh, but that's complex on us.
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:Yes, I know.
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:Even the person doesn't know it.
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:To help the audience maybe
to better understand the
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:subconscious frustration idea.
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:If, and I'm a bad example
because of my haircut.
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:If you are selling a shampoo, for example,
or a hair conditioner for men, let's say.
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:So the rational way would be to say,
okay, with that shampoo, hair conditioner,
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:your hair is going to look blonde
smoother, and have that wave and it's
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:style, and you will be very stylish.
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:That's rational.
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:Primal selling would be what if
you would be the only person people
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:want to talk to the one person who
attracts everyone at the next party.
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:In that sentence, I'm
showing you your problem.
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:Actually, no one wants to talk to you.
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:And with my, what if I let you
imagine how it's going to be?
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:And it took me one second, not even seven
seconds in that one sentence, I have
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:touched your subconscious frustration.
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:I have created the emotional variation
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:John: Yeah.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: and your
decision, and you're even going to
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:think that I've solved the problem
when I haven't solved anything yet.
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:John: Because
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: brand
grain is going to love me.
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:John: Yeah.
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:We I've come across this
with marketing before.
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:If you can clearly identify a problem for
people there, then the assumption comes
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:that oh, you get that, you understand
that you must have the solution as well.
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:You are automatically credited with that.
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:We see everywhere now AI is
all over the place and I think
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:it is, it's hard to even.
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:Completely predict how much is
gonna change things for us and
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:the working environment stuff.
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:But one thing that seems to come up
again and again is that it probably not
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:really gonna take away the areas where
we still need to relate to other people.
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:The human connection.
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:That it's not, hopefully not at
least going to fully replace that.
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:People who are doing coaching consulting,
they're person to person staff.
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:There's the professional speaking for
example where there's still a very much
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:a need for human presence and connection.
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:Is gonna be particularly essential.
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:But where does any of this fit
in with, because I think you have
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:some background in AI as well.
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:Where do you feel that this
maybe fits in with neuro
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:marketing and ethical persuasion?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: I think it's
a fantastic tool to create content,
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:but it's only a fantastic tool where,
what you expect from that tool.
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:Yeah.
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:It's very funny because yes, I had
a PhD in artificial neural networks,
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:which 30 years ago when I was
doing my PhD, we didn't even work.
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:We refused to be called
artificial intelligence.
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:'cause at that time, the expert
systems were artificial intelligence
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:and we, the artificial neural
network guys that it was disgusting.
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:So we didn't want to be called
artificial intelligence.
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:And nowadays artificial neural
networks are what's powering
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:GPT and all those things.
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:So you have to understand that artificial
neural networks are learning models.
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:In fact, they are met to learn.
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:You give them an input.
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:They come with outputs.
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:If there is a delta to the expected
output, they correct themselves.
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:And you can see if you insist with GPT,
for example, when something is wrong and
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:you keep insisting, it's diving deeper
and deeper into the wrongness of the
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:answers because it's learning wrongly.
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:So you have to clean the
slate and start again.
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:So we can only get good
things from AI if we.
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:Teach it properly what we want.
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:And you can see people
who write good prompts.
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:They don't write one line, they write
a full paragraph of instructions.
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:They're very precise because
they know what they want.
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:Yeah.
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:It's like people tell, yeah, but
I'm going to design my website.
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:You don't even know what you
wanna put on your website.
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:Don't create a website if you
don't know what comes in it.
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:What's the purpose of it?
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:I'm coaching clients and this,
let's do, because you have to be
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:very present on social networks,
but don't post just to be there.
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:You can do it to be seen, but you have to
have a strategy behind everything you do.
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:It has to go somewhere.
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:It has to persuade someone.
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:No, it has to drive them to
the results you want while you
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:help them at the same time.
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:So AI will help, but I think it's very
far from understanding human emotion.
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:Even we humans don't
know how emotions work.
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:There are so many models on emotions.
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:It said at the moment that you
experience per day between 20 to
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:40,000 emotional states in your brain.
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:I think you were thinking,
oh, I was happy this morning
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:and I'm beside this afternoon.
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:You think I have two emotions today?
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:No.
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:You go through those
emotional states all the time.
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:Predict that we can experiment up
to 60, 64,000 different emotions.
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:John: I can't imagine how anyone
would've calculated that accurately.
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:But I would certainly, we have conscious
awareness of all that, as you say.
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:But it's an interesting prospect.
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:I'm certainly glad that AI isn't too
much of a threat, but I do still think
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:that is a good thing to be leaning
into the relationship side of things.
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:What do you see as being like is
ethical persuasion still going to,
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:is it gonna be more commonplace?
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:Do you think in the future?
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:Do you think more people
are gonna adopt this?
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:What's what?
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:Where are we headed?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: that's my work.
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:John: Yeah, I.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: That's my work.
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:No.
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:I think the more we go into tools
that take us away from our humanity.
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:The more we're going to need this
humanity and the more we're going
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:to need human relationships.
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:That's how our species survive
because we are tribal species
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:because we stick together, we
work together we grow together.
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:We all have different roles
in the tribes we are in.
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:So again, even homosapiens who
we are, science still doesn't
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:know exactly why we are the one
be petal species that survived.
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:There was homo
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:We had some other Homo
European an in Europe.
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:Why is homo sapiens everywhere?
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:Is it because we were the most invading
evolution of the species, or were
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with other species to the point we
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:Many relationships.
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:Look, during Covid, when we were in
lockdown, I didn't experience it.
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:Most people here in the south of
France were living in the GA region.
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:John: I.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: And being, we are
living in another part of France where
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we don't meet someone with our family.
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but people in major big towns, big
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:cities were in lockdown in their
apartments and some went ballistic and
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:you can still see the aftermath of it.
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:John: Yeah.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: I talking lot of
people and they always say something
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:changed, talk with taxi drivers, they
think people are more aggressive.
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:Talk with people in supermarkets,
people are more aggressive.
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:So because something switched a little bit
because of that lockdown of being removed
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:from who we are, and that wasn't about the
secret persuasion because we somehow, we
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:all knew we got played, so we're pissed.
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:John: But I do think there's beyond
making sales and making money, there
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:is a bigger impact to be had with
really listening to peer poll and
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:being present with them and paying
attention we are developing relationships
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:and closeness and interaction.
739
:I'm someone, I work remotely.
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:Maybe, I don't know how much of
your work is remote, but I work
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:remotely most of the time, apart
from when I'm giving presentations.
742
:I do some in person work with the events
and things, but most of it's remote
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:and sometimes I don't realize how much
it affects me that I don't go out and
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:meet people who are my peers or my
friends, as much as I would really
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:like to like last Friday, went and
had lunch with a friend that hadn't
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:done it for ages, and it's oh my God.
747
:You sort starts this is what I've been
missing needing that connection, needing
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:that interaction from other people.
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:But you're right.
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:COVID really highlighted that for
us, but I think we can, yeah, I think
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:this maybe we all will as well is
actually part of the repair work.
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:The healing from that, that we
start making things a bit better
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:for people and connecting.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Just be human, the
first thing is pay attention to other
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:people, but it doesn't cost you anything
to smile to someone and look at how people
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:are surprised when you smile at them.
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:They either think that you're nutcase
or they stop and they look at you,
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:and then they smile and you can
see it's made them feel good, in
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:fact, that's my why, because.
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:When I smile, even when I do it
consciously, what I'm doing right
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:now, with the little wrinkles here and
so on, because I do it consciously.
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:My muscles moving, my primal
brain thinks I'm smiling.
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:So it gives me a reward.
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:It gives me a shoot of endorphins.
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:And because you saw me smile,
you smile a little bit.
766
:But there is also a theory about
mirror neurons, meaning that if I
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:move my hand, if you see my hand
move, you may not move your hand.
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:But the neurons triggering the
hand movement are currently
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:triggered in your brain.
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:So if I smile, your neurons connected
to your smile are triggering,
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:so you get a shoot of endorphin.
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:So it's free drugs.
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:So if I smile, you smile.
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:If you smile, someone else smile.
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:And we may make the world smile, and
then our children have a better place.
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:That's why I do what I do.
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:I could do many things to get
there, but I'll do that through.
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:Keeping ethical persuasion
from my books, my trainings,
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:workshops, coaching, and so on.
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:So that's the idea.
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:They're still like build people on earth.
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:So there's still little bit of work.
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:John: I love that.
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:I love, love, love some mirror neurons.
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:The fact that they can help with so
many different aspects of like mental
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:rehearsal and preparation as well for
things and for how you show up and
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:how you feel on a day-to-day basis.
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:Probably we'll have to do a complete
episode at some point just on that
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:one topic because it's big in itself.
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:This has really been a very fascinating
conversation for me and I'm pretty sure
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:our listeners gonna enjoy this as well
and will maybe like me, will want to know
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:more and maybe, check how can they find
out more about neuromarketing, make me
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:great, all the other stuff that you do.
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:The ethical persuasion.
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:Where should people go to
find out more about you?
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: They can find more
on my website, which is happy brains.com,
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:or you have make me great.com
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:and if they want to connect,
I'm easy to find on LinkedIn.
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:I am Thomas Rodman from Happy
Brains, and it's easy to see.
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:I'm the bold guy with
the brain, so there are
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:John: And the cool glasses.
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:I'm a bit jealous of your glasses.
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:They look much cooler than mine.
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:I might have to invest in
a flash pair like that.
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:They look really cool.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: I will
tell you the name of the brand.
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:John: I appreciate that.
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:I certainly will be checking out more
of your content and I look forward to
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:hearing more from you in the future on
ethical persuasion and happy brains.
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:The likes that Dr.
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:Thomas Trotman, it's been a real
pleasure having you on present influence.
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:Thank you.
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:Dr Thomas Trautmann: Thank you.
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:I enjoy your job.
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:Thank you.
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:John: To sum up my thoughts on this,
I've always thought that persuasion and
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:influence should be taught and acted
on within ethical frameworks, because
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:otherwise we do become the con artists
who are trying to trick people into doing
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:what we want or trying to negatively
manipulate people in situations to our own
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:ends and not for their greater outcomes.
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:I think most of us are good people
who want to do good things, and so
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:we shouldn't be abusing the tools of
influence and persuasion, but certainly
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:they can be abused and pretty much all
of them as well, not just Cialdini's six
824
:tools, although there are seven now in
the new updated version of his book, but
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:also the tools of rhetoric can be abused.
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:None of those things will leave us
feeling good about ourselves and
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:probably not good about our results
because it's not all about the money.
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:If all that matters to you in your life
is money, then you are lacking some deeper
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:meaning and you're probably lacking a
lot of love and close relationships.
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:Success in life is success in all areas of
life that you can have it not just in one.
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:And whilst money is important, it is not
the only thing that gives you a rich life.
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:So, let's aim to be ethical and as the
stoic philosophers would say, virtuous
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:in our actions, that we act with
good intent and goodwill for others.
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:That we care for our fellow humans
as best we can, and that we don't
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:look to just fulfill our own needs.
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:This may be beyond the messaging of
this particular show, but this is my
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:personal philosophy of that we can
do a lot to help each other out just
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:by how we show up in the world and how
we act and interact with other people.
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:That can teach other people, or at
least show others that there can be
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:a better way of acting and behaving.
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:Not that we should become doormats to be
walked over, but that we should be kind in
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:our actions, but firm as well with others.
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:That we should have healthy
boundaries with people.
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:We should be unafraid to say
no, unapologetic for being true
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:to ourselves and more besides.
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:And if you've been listening to
this show for a while, you'll know
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:that these are important elements.
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:On Friday, I'm gonna be
sharing with you something new.
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:I'm gonna be sharing with you a
coaching call that I recorded , with
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:someone who is a listener to the show.
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:And I am looking for more people who want
to do this as well, because I do think
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:it's gonna give you great insights into
things that are gonna help you develop
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:your communication skills, whether that's
as a professional speaker and looking to
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:do more keynotes, or whether you just want
to improve your communication outright.
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:If that's you and you would like
to be improving your communication
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:skills or stepping up your keynote,
or maybe even adding a bit of humour
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:into what you do, then get in touch.
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:The coaching sessions themselves
are gonna be around 30 minutes.
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:They are gonna be free.
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:The catch is that they will be
published on the show, so other
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:people will be able to watch and
listen to your coaching sessions.
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:They will not be private.
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:If you do actually want private coaching
calls, and that's something you'd like
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:to speak to me about, those aren't
free, but you can get in touch with me
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:to find out more about what's on offer
or go and visit present influence.com
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:and take a look at the different
coaching packages there.
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:Before I go, so that's on Friday.
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:Next week I'll be speaking
with Mentalist Keith Kong.
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:Really cool guy.
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:And he was a winner of Penn and
Teller's Fool Me show, if you've ever
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:seen that, Penn and Teller fantastic.
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:Love them.
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:And if you've ever been to Vegas,
you may have seen them as well.
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:And there's certainly been on a lot of tv.
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:He won that as basically kind
of a magic or trick show.
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:He, he, he's a professional mantalist.
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:done shows mostly in the US and he sat
down to talk with me about mentalism,
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:how to entertain as a mentalist and
some insights into how mentalism
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:works and to how he can influence
crowds and audiences from the stage.
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:Really fascinating conversation
and Keith is such a nice guy.
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:So I hope you'll come and
join me for that next week.
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:For now, wherever you're going,
whatever you're doing, have
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:an amazing rest of your day.
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:See you next time.